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What to do when you and husband/boyfriend can't agree on a name
What would you do in this situation. You ate pregnant with a son due in a week and a half and your boyfriend and you've had heck choosing a name. You like Blake Thomas (Thomas ia after a relative) and he likes Preston Tate (Tate is after himself). The ONLY reason he wants Preston is because he wants the baby named after himself and he doesn't think Blake Tate sounds good.
You came up with an idea for how to decide once and for all what name you'd use. You wrote each of the names down on a piece of paper and had your six year old daughter draw one. The deal was that whichever name she drew was the name you'd use and whoever lost couldn't demand their way any longer.
Your daughter drew Blake, but as soon as she did, your boyfriend said that he still wanted Preston and didn't want Blake. He's insisting to everyone that the baby's name will be Preston and even told his mother to embroider Preston on the baby's Christmas stocking.
All of this is happening because he wants the baby named after himself. You feel that although it was different in the past when it happened a lot more, it's a little arrogant to name a child after yourself. Especially to a degree where you try to steamroll the other parent about the whole name. You feel that it's much more honorable and respectable to name him after a relative.
Any advice?
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Whoa; this is one of those discussions that no matter which side we weigh in on we will be wrong. Instead I think I will stick with the legal side of things.
You right HUSBAND/BOYFRIEND. If you and the father are not married then in most states the baby will carry your last name. You will be the legal parent and guardian of the child. While your husband/boyfriend may be willing to share the support of this child you should see a lawyer about formalizing the child support with orders from the court.
That being said the naming of the child is yours to do. Since the child will carry your last name, even though the fathers name may appear on the birth certificate, you are the one that gets to name the child legally.
My suggestion is you check my advice with a lawyer to see if what I understand as the laws in my state are the same in your state. If so you should act accordingly as you wish.
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