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have no friends, no family, husband that tells me he wished I would kill myself
husband tells me he wished I'd kill myself. I have no one to talk to, visit, see. Even told my Dr. and he acted like I didn't say anything. I am living in a town full of hate and crime, a fixed income, husband is sick and I am barely keeping it together, all he does is scream at me and stay mad. I am 63 yrs. old and he is 59. He has cirrhosis of the liver, Hep C, diabetes, weighs 340. we live in opposite ends of the house and barely see each other, only at night around 8pm til 10 or 11 pm in the living room to watch TV together, but he usually wants to start an argument. we take turns cooking, but I am the only one who does any cleaning. Never leave the house but for groceries or Dr.'s. Am so ready to just end it...I see no end in sight , we are too poor to move and too disabled to move. WTF do I do?
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I don't know what small hateful town in particular you live in but it sounds like you need to reach out and get some support. If you have no family, no friends and your in a town of hate it sounds to me like you have nothing to loose! If your husband wants to be a verbally abusive old troll, thats just fine but quite frankly, he can do it alone. Now days lots of people are living far beyond the age of 60. Since you have nothing to loose I think it's about time you took some risks. Risk the possibility that your life can be better than this. Whats the worse that can happen? You die trying? Well it's better then just ending it all not trying.
Here is a link to social networking group for 60+ to make connections and share ideas. Seems like it could be a great way to meet some positive proactive people anywhere in the country.
over-60-social-club.meetup.com
If you thought it's too late to leave your husband, think again! YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Check out this article about why women are deciding at age 60 to leave their husbands.
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If you're worried about money, you'll be happy to know that we have more 60+ seniors in the workforce now than ever before. There are even jobs for the disabled! Check out this sight dedicated to helping people find work after 60.
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You will probably live another 30+ years and you should at least try and see what life has out there for you, it might surprise you. Start with the things you can do right now that don't ask a lot of you. Like connecting with other people like you on the internet. Your not dead your in your 60's and your not alone, reach out and get some support. In today's day and age there is no reason not to.
If I were you I would go for it. I would tell my mean old husband that I'm leaving him and if he doesn't think I can then he can watch me. I would get a credit card and charge it up getting the hell out of there and starting over. If you have no family then no one is going to have to pay the bank if you never pay it off. I normally don't advocate being irresponsible but you seem like a really nice lady and banks don't exactly have a good moral reputation themselves. I think they can foot the bill on this one. Your happiness is more important. Its more important to have a doctor that is kind and caring and a community of people that treat each other like human beings. Why let money stand in your way, it's just paper that your not going to take with you in the end anyway. This is your life and it doesn't have to end like this. If your husband wishes you would kill yourself then I guess he wont miss you when your gone. He can enjoy rotting away in that house alone.
Can you connect to retirement communities or senior centers in neighboring towns? Are you functional enough to get work there or qualify for housing? Check out your options. It feels like you have been settling your whole life. Now is the time to take risk and be free in ways young people can't be. You have nothing to loose and thats not depressing it's an amazing OPPORTUNITY!!
Remember you are free and your situation can be a blessing in disguise if you let it.
Good luck honey,
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