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i can't figure out whats wrong with me
hey am 18 now am a kind of person
that crys over silly things and who
doesn't cry on important times i
can't figure out whats wrong with
me, all my family crys when they
say goodbye, they cry when they
see a tragic show, but i don't.... i
am not a bad person but this thing
is bothering me so bad, because it
has happened many times, when
every body crys i don't , but when
someone yells at me i cry ,when am
angry i cry, when am alone i cry so
what should i call this behaviour,
please help am so worried!!!!
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Hi sweetie!
Don't worry yourself so much
In fact I don't really cry about anything,even when someone near me dies,imagine! It doesn't mean that I'm heartless,or I don;t care,or have no feelings,it's just how I deal with things differently
When something tragic does happen,I deal with it differently than people do
I usually deal with things by keeping a journal,and writing things down,or even clean,yes clean,something to get my mind off things
I usually sometimes excuse myself from a situation and let myself grieve privately
When I am angry,or hurt,or go through a break-up,I cry,I really do,and seclude myself.Im the same as you!
Its not uncommon sweetie,and that is who and what you are
What should you call it? Well,no need to give it a name!
Don't be worried dear one,just be who you are,we all as human being handle things differently in life!
Be blessed dear one!
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I really do not think there is anything wrong with you. We all have different emotions and different emotional levels. Just because your family cries at the drop of a hat doesn't mean everyone or you should as well. It could also be that maybe as for when family leaves you don't feel as close to them as the other members of your family do. I have family members I don't care for and when they visit I'm nice to them though I can't wait for them to leave.
When someone yells at you then you have every right to cry whether they have reason to yell at you or not. When a person yells at you they are verbally attacking you. Crying is a defense mechanism as well as an emotion.
As for when tragedy happens to others; it really depends on the tragedy and how close you are to the other person. For many years I was a first responder/firefighter. How could I possibly do my job if I broke down and cried at every tragedy I saw. Yes tragedy affects all of us including first responders. We handle it, we take care of the problem then we handle the event. Generally we tell each other very inappropriate jokes then no one would understand but it breaks the tension for us. We repack and get ready for the next call.
Everyone handles tragedy in their own way tears are not always required. Many times strength is required to support the person or persons most affected by the tragedy. Maybe you are the person with that strength who can deal with the tragedy in the present then goes home and cries when you’re alone.
I'm not a psychologist so I really cannot give you any type of medical opinion. As I said I don't think there is anything wrong with you, I believe you to be normal. If you feel otherwise then seek out a psychologist.
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