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Sex
I want to have sex but I don't want to get pregnant. I'm only 13 almost 14. If there is anyone that will do this with me secretly please do. Parents cannot find out.
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Young lady time for some grandfatherly advice. Since I am old enough to be your grandfather I am going to offer some to you.
First: We are not a dating sight. We answer questions people might have based on our wisdom, age and life experiences.
Second: You are way too young to be having or looking to have sex. The problem you have is your horny and that is understandable. You have entered puberty. You have a host of new hormones, hence the word horny, floating through you. You have an extreme amount of sexual energy that needs release.
As adults, parents and grandparents we know this, we have been there. What we tell you is DON'T HAVE SEX YOU'RE TOO YOUNG. This is correct but we also don't tell you or tell you not to do what is safe to do to discharge this sexual energy. (More on this in bit.)
Third: Sex at your age is not only wrong it could be harmful. Yes your body may have the womanly curves and breast. Your vagina, your sexual organ though is still that of a child. It has probably not received the hormones that unlock the muscles which allow your vagina to expand and accept a penis.
IF you were to have sex with a boy with a large penis who forces himself into you. He could tear those muscles and you will never have good comfortable sex later in life. This is what is so horrible with child rapists besides the fact it is just plain sick. When you are older the hormones will be released and sex will be more comfortable, even the first time.
Fourth: Right now at 13 you cannot legally buy condoms or any type of birth control. When you're older you can. It is very important not just for birth control but to prevent most STDS and the HIV/Aids virus that a condom always be used. How are you going to prevent pregnancy if you are not old enough to by even a condom?
Masturbation: Masturbation, fingering yourself is the safest way to experience sexual relief for someone your age. You do so in the privacy of your bedroom or your evening bath or morning shower. Masturbation is safe and it is just as pleasurable as intercourse when done properly.
For reasons I do not understand parents tell children not to masturbate. Yet in a recent survey 85 of the population, teenage to adult masturbate. Masturbation is not a sin. Even the Catholic church does not consider it a sin. It is not condone, most religions do not condone it, though there is no reference in any Bible to condone, not condone or make it a sin.
My advice is not to go looking for sex, you're too young. Masturbate instead.
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Okay, I'm 14 too so I'll try to give you some advice. You really shouldn't be asking for sex on the internet because you'll get raped, you'll get STDs, etc., and it's just wrong. When you do have sex eventually (and if I were you if wait at least until I was 15, preferably 17 or 18) please use a condom. And don't use two condoms, because that does not make you super safe, the friction between the two causes both condoms to rip. You should also consider birth control just in case. In conclusion, have sex with someone you love when you're ready.
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I am one for waiting a bit to engage in sex with a partner. However, prior to that, you can masturbate, ask mom to get you vibrators or dildos.
But you are going to do what you want no matter what of course. So in that case, go to Planned Parenthood. I know they have worked with teens and have teen teaching programs and hand out condoms and cant say at what age but they do offer birth control and under the Hippa law they must keep your privacy so parents wont know.
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It's natural to be curious, but you are absolutely not old enough, and anyone on the internet who would be willing to have sex with you secretly is not the kind of person you should trust. You need to find someone you can talk to, like a female school counselor, and learn more about your body and turn-ons, figure out exploring yourself what feels good, what doesn't, and how to assert yourself with someone you like, so you can have more satisfying sexual experiences in a few years, AFTER you have seen a gynecologist and have been placed on a reliable method of birth control.
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