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I miss her so much
Hi 15/F
(*̩ love pets)
*̩ got 2 puppies when *̩ was around 9. When *̩ was 10 one of them past away and it was very sad. *̩ was so afraid the onther one would pass away *̩ was overprotective and she became "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ everything we would so everything together. When "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ grandad died whe moved to a farm with "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ granmom when *̩ was about 13. 5 months ago a snake bit he and she died. We burried her and now "̮м̣̣̣̥γ̥"̮ mom wants to move. *̩ still cry everynight over her and *̩ don't know what to do. *̩ will never have a dog like her. And mym mom don't want me to get another one. She would also not let me reburry her* plZ help?
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There are some pets that end up having a much closer connection with a human than most regular pets would. Some pets have even been known to read their owners mind, anticipate their intentions or needs, and some pets feel lost if not having their favorite human around, almost like the connection of two soul mates who lose a partner and are way beyond normal grief and find life hard to continue on. But in time we will recover...it just takes much much longer with the loss of a pet that was so close. My husband told me a story of a dog he had like that growing up. It was his friend when other kids couldn't click with him..he had the higher IQ and other kids just didn't click with him or make good friends but he and his dog had a telepathic connection so he was hard hit with the loss of his dog. I cried as an adult when he told me the story. Like your story, it was not illness but an unexpected situation that caused the death so the death wasn't even expected. Death of family or pets that are anticipated because they are very ill and slowly dieing are a bit easier in that they are not such a shock on the system, it was expected and you had plenty of time to mentally prepare for the fact. With an unexpected death, there is no mental preparedness ahead of time to help deal with it. The grieving tho is the same in either case. It is not a good thing to dig up the pet to move with you. Yes, I agree that it is likely you will never have another dog like her. You may have to do without another dog for a while. Give mom a chance to find the place and make the move and all the adjustments and changes that come with a move. A move is a really big and stressful thing for any adult. Once some time has passed after the move, then try approaching mom for another pet, maybe even try the angle of saving the life of a dog in a center for adoption. She may not be wanting to go through the puppy stage any more at this point. I feel the same after the loss of our dog. Hubby wants to adopt a Pekingese dog (his favorite) but rarely do any end up in kennels up for adoption and we are not going the puppy route again. We're getting too old for that. We adopted one that way and will wait for the right match of an adult dog to come our way. Your mom may also be more open to adopting an adult dog, or taking one under trial in the home to see how it adjusts. I remember one dog we brought home that in the first two days was extremely stressed and stressful to us and didnt settle in right away, destroying furniture jumping up on middle of kitchen table to pee and poop for example. Never heard of a dog using table tops to do that...so it had to be returned to the center we got it at.
If mom still says no to all situations, then you'll have to wait until you are out of the house and on your own and able to afford care for a pet to get another dog. But it will be worth the wait to find just the right dog, totally different f rom the one you're missing but equally satisfying a relationship with.
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The way that you wrote your question with the stars and quotes is very confusing, just to let you know. Substitute real words in there for the names next time and it will be easier to read!
It's best that you do not dig up your pets do rebury them. Let them rest peacefully. It's normal to feel as sad as you do over losing two dogs. Not only are you sad over the loss of a companion, but there's a space in your life that's empty that can only be filled by a pet or that will close in time.
Don't give up on trying to get your mom to get you another dog. Tell her how sad you still are even though some time has passed. Try to figure out why she doesn't want to get you another one. Would it be harder to have a pet in the lace that she wants to move to? Did she not like the dog that you had? Was it poorly trained? Does she think it would cost too much? Offer to help pay if you can. I think that your mom will understand if you are honest with her. Good luck!
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