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could I have an std?
I am 25 years old and I am a female and I had oral sex for thefirst time ever I have ner fone anything sexual before nowb in my life and I am a virgin . I knowbyou proble dodon't get a lot of women who are old as I am who are virgins asking about stds on this site but iam terrified that I might have aids when I didn't even have intercourse. We were both naked and he ate me out and I sucked his dick and he gingered me could I get aids from letting this guy that I have known since I was 16 do this to me . I know this may make .e sound like a whore but we was only dating a week before he wanted to have sex and I said didn't want to have sex so we decided on oral sex . I am so scared because the other day I was in the shower and I noticed 3 little bumps inside my vagiana and I also have a boil that's kind of grey looking sorry if this is to grafic but I wanted to give you complete detail of what's going on with me so you could answer my question properly. I talked to my cousin about my situation and she said that I needed to go see a gbyon and get tested for aids and other stds . I am so scared. Please help . I made an appointment gor the 10th of my next month and iam absolutely terrified because I don't know what to they are going to do. How do they check for aids is it s blood test or do they actually have to check down there ? Will they tell anyone if I have aids . Please help me. Thank you so much.
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Lets hope you learn your lesson about this, understand men and women they out for themselves sexually nowadays, You have to be careful all together,staying a virgin is the best option for you. Never let anybody pressure you into losing your virginity, save it until you find a guy to narry you. I am not hear to pick on you, but im here to say, do the right thing, because your body is your temple, respect your body and guard your virginity against stupid guys for now on
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Dont get panic the risk of HIV is very much lower . HIV diagnosis is done through elisa blood test . First test your partner if he is negative there is no need to worry . There is a risk of transmission of certain other std through oral sex . Elisa takes 2 months after sex to get positive result .
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I HOPE YOU DONT SEE THAT BOZO GUY THAT USED YOU FOR SEX...ORAL SEX IS SEX..ANYTHING WHERE YOU ARE SERVICING HIM, IS SEX...THAT BEING SAID, DONT SEE THAT JERK ANYMORE...PLEASE DONT WORRY GO SEE YOUR GYN AND HOPEFULLY YOU HAVE LEARNED FROM THIS EXPERIENCE...MEN LIKE THE CHASE, IF YOU SPREAD YOUR LEGS, OR GIVE HIM A BJ THATS NOT LOVE, HES USING YOU, NEXT TIME ASK A MAN THAT WANTS TO TAKE YOU OUT,'WHAT ARE YOUR INTENTIONS' AND HE'LL ACT DUMB, AND SAY WHAT? WHERE IS THIS RELATIONSHIP LEADING TO...IF HE HEMS AND HAWS HES JUST USING YOU AS A RECEPTICLE, DO YOU UNDERSTAND, HE DOESNT CARE ABOUT YOU, IF THEY WANT TO TREAT YOU LIKE A WHORE, LET HIM GO OUT AND PAY A PROSTITUTE, WHO GETS ANYWHERE FROM 200.00 AND UP..,.(iAM IN LOS ANGELES) STUDY, WORK, TRAVEL, KEEP BUSY, DONT GET SIDE TRACKED WITH SOME LOSER, WHO JUST WANTS A WARM PLACE TO PUT IT...IF HE CARES FOR YOU, HE WONT WANT SEX, AND TRY TO BULLY YOU INTO IT...MEET THESE GUYS WITH YOUR BROTHER OR A FRIEND...STAY CLEAR OF THIS DUDE, AND WHY WOULD YOU THINK YOU HAVE AID'S? YEA THEY DO A BLOOD TEST, AND IT TAKES A WHILE TO INCUBATE..FORGET HOW LONG...ASK THE DOCTOR AND DONT GO GETTING YOURSELF ALL WORKED UP, JUST BE HAPPY YOUR NOT PREGNANT...AND DONT BE SERVICING BOYS/MALES/
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Alright. Hey there sweetie!
Congratulations on holding off so long, I think it's admirable that you waited to have sex. And tecnically, you're still a virgin.
So, yes you can get an std while practicing oral sex. I don't know why people would think otherwise. There's a quite a few std's that can be transmitted orally like: human papillomavirus (HPV), HIV, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, HPV, and viral hepatitis. So it could be any of that. The fact that you've known this guy since you were 16 has nothing to do with the actual situation. He could've had sex in that time, and you would never know. And the fact that you waited a week to do anything sexual with him doesn't make you a whore, or anything of the like. I'm not really here to judge you, only to help.
Oral sex is not safe sex. It's safer than intercourse, but like everything there's some risks.
Now, I know you might feeling scared so here's something that might help you calm down: those bumps that you described aren't necessarily caused by std's. Cysts are common and can occur anywhere on the body. In the vulva (the area near the vagina) they often arise from a blocked skin gland. They often look like pimples or lumps under the skin. If fairly large or uncomfortable, it can be incised and drained by a doctor. (If you think this could be it, there's two types, just look it up on google.)
Genital herpes is an STD. It usually causes itchy, burning and painful lesions that often start as a sore spot resembling a bug bite, but progresses over a few days to a blister or group of blisters and then an open ulcer. Treatment includes antiviral medications and pain meds.
Papilloma virus (HPV) can cause genital warts. These "bumps" have a cauliflower like appearance. They are rough to the touch and can spread. Treatment includes applications of medications to freeze off the lesions or improve the immune system to fight the virus.
Molluscum contagiosum. This viral infection causes small, fleshy bumps on the vulva with a central indentation. They have a pearly color to them. They usually go away without treatment.
Skin tags are fleshy irregular shaped growths of normal skin that can occur on the vulva or elsewhere on the body.
(I found this information at: healthcentral.com)
I just thought you should look into all the things that could cause what you're describing. I'm not a doctor, so I can't diagnose you with anything but I hope I could help with that bit of information. I think you should totally go to your doctor and know for sure what's going on with your body so you can work with it. No one is going to tell anyone if you have an std. There's something called Confidentiality and it sets out the principles of confidentiality and respect for patients' privacy that doctors are expected to understand and follow. So basically, your doctor will not share this kind of information with anyone but you.
Because your problem is mostly with your vagina, then you'll most likely be referred to your gynecologist. Your gynecologist will have to check your vagina to be sure if it's an std or not. Most of the std's I mentioned leave a physical trace that your gynecologist will be able to recognize. If they don't find anything then they'll probably run a blood test just to be sure everything's good.
But again, I'm not a doctor. Just hoped I could help clear up any doubts you may have. Stay calm and be safe!
Best of luck!
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"In general, becoming infected with HIV by receiving oral sex is probably a very rare occurrence. The risk of getting HIV through giving oral sex is low compared with unprotected vaginal or anal sex, but there is some risk. The risk appears to be higher if you have cuts or sores in your mouth."
I found this on an hiv.gov website. Do you think that this person has aids? Is that why you are afraid? Have they told you that they have aids? The thing is also that aids doesn't really manifest itself by bumps. It is in the bloodstream. It is possible that you could have gotten something else, even an infection maybe! But, this really doesn't sound like aids to me.
First off, I do not think you are a slut! I am not into judging people. As far as you being a virgin, I actually commend you. I am a Christian and since most of my friends are from my church, most of them are also virgins or not sexually active at all. Some people have even decided out of personal conviction to save their first kiss with their significant other for their wedding day! So, don't feel ashamed about that either. There are others who have done a lot more and a lot less. So, there is no reason to feel "prude" or "slutty". You are none of the above. You are just you and you are perfect :)
Whatever they find this out to be, they will not tell anyone. You are 25 and an adult and it would be ILLEGAL if they gave anyone your medical information. As far as for aids, yes, it is a blood test. Aids is not a visual thing. To check for other std's, they will actually have to check down there.
I would try and be patient for your appointment. The doctors are there to help you. I will also keep you in my prayers! Please feel free to e-mail me and let me know how everything turns out. xoxo
cfern064@fiu.edu
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First it is tottaly normal for you to be scared but you have close friends and relatives you can talk about this and will help you this is one of the things you can do.Anyway DONT BE SCARED our psyche tends to overblow everything that happens to us.For example when we meet someone unknown our brain comes with million bad scenarios but REMEMBER IT IS NEVER AS BAD AS WE THINK IT IS.Go and get the tests and have the dude or someone close to you to go together for support so you do not feel alone dealing with this.I only know about the blood test but since you think you have something down let them check you out so you can be sure what the result is.The test is 100% personal only you know the results even they do not know them.
DONT worry its all going to be OK I Know you will be perfectly Safe and Fine. :))
Write me whatever the result is if you want me to give you some advice in the future : email: ni3koto@abv.bg
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First of all, please calm down! I know you are worried but unless your boyfriend engages in risky behaviors, such as drug use or unprotected sex with many partners your chances of having AIDS are very slim. You did the right thing though by making a gyn appt.so please make sure to go. There are other stds you can contract from oral sex and you DO need to get checked out. I am almost certain you will need a blood test but they are relatively painless as long as you stay relaxed and don't tense up. In the future ask your boyfriend to wear a condom for oral sex as well. They even sell flavored ones to make it more pleasant for you! Boils in the vaginal area are not uncommon especially if you are shaving or waxing the area. They are also more common during summer months when the sweat glands are more active. There is an std called Herpes that can cause painful blisters on the genitals. Condoms do NOT protect you from this so please be sure to ask your partner for any history of stds and be on the lookout if you see anything suspicious on his genitals. Do not ever engage in any type of sex if you see a blister or lesion present. I hope this helps ease your anxiety a little bit. The best precaution against having this happen again is to always use protection! Best of luck to you!
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Hi sweetie,let me give you a hug first!!
Take a breather sweetheart!
I know you are scared,but please know,that many of the testing they are actually quite quick and mostly painless.
The best thing to do is see Gynecologist stat!
A Gynecologist can take time to see you and check your female health.
If you are taking a blood test for AIDS or any other sexual disease,please know,they have what they called Doctor/Patient Confidentiality,meaning they will only keep results and things like that private! Your family and friends will not know
If you need to ask any questions or have concerns,please tell your doctor,and of its not too late,ask of you can see a Female Doctor,trust me,there is a difference!
If you need more advice,feel free to contact!
Be blessed!
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Hi. If the hiv (the virus which goes on to become aids) enters your body it will not cause any rashes or swellings or anything else on or around your genitals. It may cause severe or mild flu like symptoms up to two weeks or so after exposure and infection. Or there may be no symptoms whatsoever. A blood test is the only way to detect the virus. Consider the test entirely reliable and beyond mistakes. The good news is that there are no documented cases of the virus being transmitted either way where oral sex was the only sexual activity which took place. There are reasons why this is so. Get back to me if you want details or search some serious and creditable hiv advice web sites. In practice you find sex-workers (escorts, call-girls) who have many sexual liaisons with partners of unknown sexual history will NEVER have penetrative intercourse without a condom but often offer 'oral without' either way. There is no cure for aids, it is fatal. But you can assume escorts do not want to die. There are other sexually transmitted infections which are readily passed by oral sex and are idetified visually by inspection. Chlamydia is another sign and symptomless one. Hiv/aids is the only one which cannot be cured. By all means arrange a test if it will put your mind completely at ease and I promise nobody will want to look below your waist, they just want some blood to test for hiv.
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Probably you dont have any Sexually Transmitted Disease(STD)or AIDS. It may be due to some infections transferred from the mouth of your partner or due to some other reasons. But I suggest only a doctor can tell about the exact reason of these boils and bumps.There is nothing terrifying about it. A doctor may advise blood test and actually check down there.But there is nothing gross or terrifying about that.And its against their rules to tell anyone about their patient's details.
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Hi there! Well even though I am not as old as you are, I do understand this kind of stuff. When I was taking health, we learned all about sex and STD's. To be honest with you, you can easily get an STD even if you didn't have actual sex. And when you said there are 3 bumps inside your private part, well, I'm as confused as you are. It's a very smart thing to see a doctor about this. Even if you had oral sex with him, you can get an STD anywhere. Even if it's not your mouth. And when they have STD tests, they test with blood samples, and they look in your parts. The only people they would tell is you and maybe your parents, but that is up to you! Don't be afraid, because you are getting checked for your health and that's okay. And I don't think you're a whore. I hope you will be okay and know I'm praying for you.
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Only if he has a history of aids or any std's if not your fine if this continues to bother you consult your gp or family planning clinic
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Hi dear,
First off, being a virgin or not is totally your choice. You don't have to beat yourself up on that. If it makes you feel better I'm 26 and I'm a virgin.
Second, don't judge yourself cause you did something you liked, so what you dated a guy fooled around with? no big deal =)
Oral sex has been shown to be a less risky activity, but it is not risk free. The risk of HIV being passed on during oral sex centres on fluid containing HIV (semen, vaginal fluid or blood) finding a way into the bloodstream of an HIV-negative person (via the mouth or throat, which is more likely if there is inflammation, or cuts or sores present). HIV is not passed on through exposure to saliva alone, so a person with HIV performing oral sex on someone who is HIV negative is considered to be very low risk. "source: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location);
So try to relax until you get tested and let me know how it goes.
One last thing, but that again is just to be on the safe side no judgements what so ever: please before you engage in any sort of sexual act, try to get the guy tested before and have yourself regularly checked up. Just to be safe.
Best of luck
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Hello there, the chances of getting aids from oral sex is very low, although possible through abrasions in the mouth. Are you certain that this person has aids? You could however contract std's such as gonorrhea or chlamydia. Your urine will be tested, if you go to a gynecologist he/she will check down there, and if you are doing an aids test your blood will be tested. Considering you are twenty five years old, you're an adult and I'm certain your result will be confidential. If you shave or wax your pubic area it could probably just be an ingrown hair, however for peace of mind, you should see a gynecologist
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First let me reassure you that you are not a whore! It is perfectly normal to have sex or explore sexually. Most people have done these things well before your age. If anything, being you age and having not had sex yet, you would be the complete opposite. Now here is the thing, having oral sex can result in catching aids or other std's. But the person you have sexual contact with must have the disease in order for you to get it. Does this man have aids? if so chances are you may have it. But if he does not have any sexually transmitted diseases than congratulations neither do you. Now I will offer you a bt of advice (and dont feel bad or offended because I myself hadnt done this when I first started expiriment sexually, thankfully I was one of the few lucky ones and didnt get anything) If you are going to have sex, make sure you have the one you are having sex or oral sex with is clean. Make him get tested for stds. Now if you are caught up in a moment and the testing just isnt an option at this momnt make sure you always use a condom to prevent catching anything. Using condoms are said to be the only way to prevent STD'S but you have to use them correctly. To make sure you know how to properly use condoms I will post a link at the bottom for you to read.
Testing for aids is easy. Its just a smple blood test. This test checks for HIV antibodies in your blood. Beware these antibodies may take 3 to six months after contact to appear in your blood. So if you are tested and its negative but you are still afraid you may have it, be sure to make an appointment for six months after just for extra assurance.
Please check out the full website listed below to get all the information you will new on getting tested.
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You should consider getting tested for HIV infection if you or your partner(s) have ever:
◾ had sex - especially anal or vaginal intercourse - without using a latex or polyurethane condom or other protective barrier
◾ had sex while under the influence of alcohol or drugs (you might not have used protection)
◾ tested positive for another sexually transmitted and blood-borne infection (e.g. syphilis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, hepatitis B, hepatitis C, etc.)
◾ shared needles, syringes or other drug use equipment (e.g., water, cotton filters, cookers, pipes, straws) when using drugs, including steroids
◾ had tattooing, piercing or acupuncture with unsterilized equipment
◾ had a blood transfusion or received other blood products before November 1986
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here are some other links you may find helpful in learning how to protect yourself against stds
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to answer your final question, No the doctors will not tell anyone anything about your visit weather you are positive or not. All visits to the doctor are confidential and they are not allowed to discuss your visits with anyone without your consent. So dont worry. And dont be embarrassed to talk to the doctor either. They have heard it all and chances are your questions are nothing near the worst they have heard. Make sure you tell the doctor about all of your symptoms as well because this will help the doctor properly diagnose and fix whatever it is you may have.
And lastly dont worry too much. Go to your appointment but until the day comes try to get your mind off of it because most times when you freak out over something it always ends up being nothing. And if it is something you will have doctors to take great care of you. Also if you find out you do in fact have some sort of std take care of it if its curable and if its more serious like aids you have to warn any and all sexual partners. For their safety.
I hope all of this helps and puts your mnd at ease. If you have any other questons just come back I will be happy to help. Good luck with your appointment.
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So first off, it's great that you've waited until you're 25 to have sex. It's nothing to be ashamed of. I'm 21 and I'm a virgin as well so you've resisted temptation as well. :)
Second, Sex is sex. It doesn't matter what kind of logic that anyone tries to put behind it, you had sex.
Third, bumps on the vagina doesn't necessarily mean that you have an STD and I highly doubt you do. Some STD's like AIDS has 6 months to show. PERIOD.
When you go see your OBGYN, he or she will most likely give you a pap smear and/or an examination. You should go regularly just for a check up. Nowadays though, you can go to a drugstore and get a swab test for that kind of STD.
As long as the bumps are not HARD, then I HIGHLY doubt it's anything. You'll be fine. They won't tell anyone if you do have anything also. They have a STRICT patient confidentiality agreement that they must abide by to be in healthcare. You have rights as a patient that they only give YOU and ONLY you the information.
Feel free to message me for any other info you may have. I'm good with questions like these. I'm going for the healthcare field myself and LOVE it.
Don't be scared though. You've already done what you should which is make an appointment. And most importantly, if he DOESN'T have an STD, you will NOT get one either.
Also, one thing to JUST TO KNOW, is that a person can have an STD and you may still not get it unless they are having an outbreak.
Don't drive yourself crazy about it though. Relax.
Good Luck!
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Ive always thought that that STD's from oral sex would only affect your mouth. But I could be wrong. Sounds like it very well could be. Getting the appointment was a good idea. No, they will not tell anyone, everything should stay private between you and your doctor. You might wash frequently "down there" to avoid it causing any other nasty infections of any sorts. Sorry to hear, hope you get it all sorted out and treated.
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The only way you will stop feeling scared about this is when you know what is wrong with your body.
Follow your friend's advice. Go see a gynaecologist (ObGyn) (A type of doctor that specialises in female sexual health). They will test and give you medication to deal with whatever problem you have. They will probably need to look down there, and may need to take blood or urine tests.
Your vagina doesn't like to be dirty. I suspect that his hands/ nails/ mouth weren't clean enough, and you have some kind of infection or bad reaction that you should get looked at.
I'm not a doctor, and none of my advice is professional medical advice. You should go see a doctor about this.
When asking questions, please be careful with your spelling. It took me a good minute to figure out what "he gingered me" meant.
Good luck
-SilentOne
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Not being a doctor, I can't answer your questions with certainty, I can only give you advice. HIV is not likely going to cause a few bumps around your vagina. These were probably caused by rough touching or were there anyway and you only noticed them because you are worried. It was the right thing to do to make an appointment, but while you're waiting, try to be calm about everything. People participate in sexual activities all the time and things turn out fine. Let this experience change your future behavior, though. Sometimes, people do catch diseases. The risk of getting an STD is real and there are precautions that you should be taking from now on that will keep you from feeling the way that you do right now.
Please educate yourself about STD's. Based on your question, you're very concerned about AIDS specifically, which tells me that you don't know very much about STD's. HIV is what you would have actually caught and there are a lot more STD's out there than just this one. Your situation reminds me of a song, the lyrics being "teenage bride with a baby inside getting high on information". You need to get high on information BEFORE you get yourself into a mess and so you can prevent a bad situation. We fear most what we don't understand. Start learning now.
It may be a good idea to speak to the guy. He's probably not an evil person and maybe he has been tested recently and can share the results with you. The best thing you can do when you're worried like this is speak to the cause of your worry. All you need to do is tell him that this was your first experience and while you have no negative feelings about him whatsoever, you're driving yourself crazy thinking that you may have caught something. Reiterate that your fears have nothing to do with him, but you were wondering if he could help you feel better about it at all. Don't avoid this conversation, it could really help. You felt comfortable enough to participate in sexual acts with him, so you need to be able to talk to him about it. Just be mindful that he may feel insulted that you think he is unsafe, promiscuous, and has an STD. He could take it the wrong way if you're not careful in how you word things. The best way to get information and to not unintentionally insult him is to say that you're worried mostly because it was your first experience and this is new to you (even though that's not completely the case). Do not avoid this conversation because you think it might be difficult. In all likelihood, it will be much easier than you think and it could make you feel sooo much better. You're freaking out anyway, so what could it hurt?
When it does come time for your appointment, be 100% honest about everything. Don't leave out details. Trust me, they've heard all of this before. This link explains what might happen when you get tested
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Do not go in and simply say "I need to be tested for AIDS". Tell the doctors what happened, about the bumps, and let THEM decide what you should be tested for. You're not a doctor and they'll have a better idea about what tests are necessary. HIV/AIDS is not the only STD. There are other STD's that are also very dangerous.
I know that I probably can't make you feel any better, but it's likely that you're just fine. Get through this experience and come out a stronger, smarter person that makes better choices in the future. Good luck!
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It wouldn't hurt to get tested for STD's, you could do it during your routine Pap test, or just on its own. Since no actual penetration occurred, it's unlikely you contracted an STD, though to be on the safe side and stop worrying, you should get tested anyway. If somehow semen ended up around your vagina, then the possibility of pregnancy and/or STD's is still there, so you need to ask for Plan B and STD screening right away. You could ask for an HIV test in a few months time, but don't stress out--unless this guy has injected drugs intravenously using dirty needles, had unprotected sex with a prostitute (again, this is unlikely), the chances of him being HIV positive are slim. Tests are free, so if you're worried, then by all means get one. As for the bumps, no body can tell you-- you need to speak to your gynecologist about it and have them examined. Results of all tests are the most accurate about 2-3 weeks after sex, so make an appointment for testing around that time. And please, if you don't feel 100% ready to do anything sexual, then wait until you've dated for longer. It's better to wait a bit and make sure you're with the right kind of guy, than to have any regrets.
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Hi,
Take a deep breath and take your mind off the stress. If you have anything at all you will be fine. Most likely it's nothing serious. Wait until checkup day to make other decisions. Our minds can play tricks on us if we only focus on negative thoughts. I just hope you learned never to give in so easily to temptation. As humans we are weak but we must learn from our mistakes. Think positively and wish you the best. Tell your friend to get treated too
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First of all DON'T slut shame yourself! Everyone has sex and it's normal and natural. I never once thought you sounded like "a whore," and it made me sad to hear you talk about yourself that way. You are NOT a whore. Don't say that about yourself. Sex can be a beautiful thing in your life but you cannot use it to punish yourself. It's part of the human experience and you should not hate yourself over it.
You will be happy to know that you cannot get HIV or AIDS from oral sex. Aids can only be transmitted through vaginal or anal intercourse or from mixing blood with someone that is HIV+. If you only had oral sex it's impossible for you to have contracted HIV or AIDS.
The rates of STI transmission from oral sex is vey low, but it is possible. You can contract Herpes, Gonorrhea, or Chlamydia from oral sex. Gonorrhea and Chlamydia can both be cured with antibiotics. Herpes can be repressed with medication and after treatment you may never have a symptom again. If infected with herpes you'll be a carrier of the virus and will want to tell your partners and practice safe sex (using a condom) to prevent transmission of the virus.
All doctors are legally required to keep the information of their clients confidential. So no matter what happens, your doctor cannot and will not tell anyone about your test results. If they know that you only had Oral sex it is unlikely that will give you a blood test. Blood tests are more expensive and none of the STI's from oral sex require a blood test to be found. They will give you something like a pap smear. A pap smear is when your doctor swabs the inside of your vagina and collects a small amount of vaginal fluid and tests it. It's important to be totally honest with your doctor and tell them if you have any unusual marks, swelling or bumps that you would like them to look at. Don't be afraid of your doctor their job is to help you. You will feel much better once you have talked to them about it. Don't be nervous about having a vaginal exam. Every women has them! It's recommended that after becoming sexually active women get yearly pap smears. It's part of being an adult and being a woman, so don't be ashamed or afraid. Love your body and know that all responsible adults take care of their bodies.
In the Future remember if you want to have penetrative sex, use a condom. If your partner does not want to use a condom then don't have sex with them. Don't let men guilt you into making unsafe decisions. A man that does that is no one you want to have sex with! look for partners that you can talk to and they show sensitivity to your concerns and are respectful of your wishes. If you would like to protect yourself during oral sex you can use a dental damn as a female condom. Talk to your prospective partners about sex and about their sexual history. Ask them when they were last tested. If they are rude or unwilling to talk about sex with you, run away! This is not a person you should have sex with!!!
Good luck honey. Remember to love yourself and take care of your body. If you do that, you will realize that sex is a beautiful part of life. Human sexual intimacy is a gift when practiced safely and with respect.
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Listen to your cousin. It sounds like you may have an infection or something, but it is very unlikely you have AIDS. AIDS will be a blood test but they will also have to check your groin area so be prepared for that, and let them do it. They are not allowed to tell anyone else about your condition (if you have one) so be open with them and help them so that they can help you.
They see this stuff hundreds of times a week - there is nothing to be embarrassed about :) Good luck!
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Alright, please calm down because everything will be okay. You are not a whore! Don't ever think of yourself that way! Sexual intercourse is just a part of being human. The absolute best thing to do is to schedule an appointment with your OBGYN so that he/she can give you the proper examination to determine if you have AIDS. All healthcare professionals must abide by a policy called HIPAA, which is an agreement to maintain patient confidentiality so you don't have to worry about them telling anyone else about your health, except for you. I understand you are afraid, my dear... But you will be okay as long as you follow up with your appointment.
If you'd like to read more about the specialities of an ObGyn, you can visit this site:
OBGYN.net
Also, if you'd like to read more about AIDS/HIV, you can also look for it on webmd.com
Good Luck and I hope your OBGYN/Doctor will provide you with the best healthcare possible!
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A, you're not a whore. I'm 25 and I've had more sex than most 40 year old women I know... Sex can be a lot of fun. Never feel ashamed about it. It's not worth the guilt, I assure you.
The STD tests should just be blood work, but you should have the doctor look at the bumps and boil that you have, for general health reasons. Things like that can be caused by everything from ingrown hairs to severe skin infections. It's not really something you should keep from your doctor. The exam is uncomfortable, sure, but it's better to know you're okay than to worry about it and not know. Also, if you're not doing a papsmear every year, or as advised by a gyno, you should be. It's a major step in catching problems before they're severe.
As for STDs... Chances are very very very high you don't have HIV/AIDS... because that's transmitted through ACTUAL sex or blood. NOT SALIVA. So you can chill on that. Even if you had it, the only person that would need to be informed is the guy that gave it to you. But you don't have that, so relax.
It's good that you're going to get checked out. Chances are high that you have nothing, but two things come to mind that you could have gotten from this, since you didn't use any barriers. In the future, I recommend dental dams and condoms... which guys will be weird about, but it's your body and your health.
1, HPV. HPV is not related to AIDS. It's an independent virus that comes in many many strains. You can have more than one straing at the same time. If you didn't get the HPV vaccine, and you come up with nothing... get the vaccine. Some of the strains do nothing, and just hang out in your system, but some can cause different kinds of cancer, including cervical (which isn't a death sentence these days, either). Some come with warts, herpes, etc. HPV is the most prevalent STD right now, infecting 79 million Americans, most of which are totally oblivious to having it. I, personally, at one time had three different strains of HPV, but they did nothing to me physically. If you either stay with the same partner or don't have any other contact with new strains of the virus for 2 years, the virus goes away on its own.
2, Herpes. The herpes virus never leaves you, ever. It's a very uncomfortable thing to contract, and it can make your sex life very tricky for the rest of your life. I thought of this, because I had an exboyfriend once, that was prone to cold sores. I never let him do anything to me when he had one, because cold sores are a form of herpes, and I don't need that in my life. After we broke up, he ate out his new girlfriend, though, and then had sex with her... and they both ended up with herpes... because mouth herpes can transfer to genital herpes real fast... Still, it's only really irritating during an outbreak, and that's when you're likely to get it from someone else. If he had no cold sores, you're probably fine on that front, too.
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The Possibility of you having AIDS is extremely remote. You say you know this boy since you were 16. Do you know him to be bisexual or to use intravenous drugs? If the answer is no to these questions then the possibility of him giving you the HIV virus is extremely remote. Also it would take more than 3 days before you would see any lesions.
Now we are not doctors so we cannot make a diagnoses and a doctor has to examine you and look at the bumps and boil to make a diagnoses.
Is it possible he gave you an STD while having oral sex or fingering you? This is more of a possibility. If he had a cold sore which is a form of Herpes know as HSV-1 and can form on the gentiles as well as the mouth. If he had a cold sore and touched his lips then not only while performing oral sex but while fingering you it would be possible to transfer the virus to you.
To wait 10 days to be seen, treated and tested is going to be extremely stressful for you. The chances that you have an STD are minimal but high enough that I recommend you go to one of the walk-in clinics or free women's clinic to be seen and tested or call your doctor and ask for an earlier appointment.
The sooner your seen the sooner you will know and the sooner you will be relieved of the stress of not knowing. Whether you test positive or negative for an STD once you know then you can deal with it.
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