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Vibrator? first time? scared?
So me and my boyfriend are in a ldr and I've never had an orgasm. I'm 22 and he's 23. He told me to go to a adult store with a giftcard he won and buy myself two different vibes. So I did and tried one alone in my apartment. I had my first O. it was so intense I screamed and my whole body convulsed like a mini seizure. It was so scary I didn't like it. I prefer just getting to the point where I'm relaxed and feel like I have to pee and then stopping and having sex with no O. It was too intense and scared me. I don't think I ever want to feel that again. So now I just vibe to where I'm comfy and no further. Help? I want to O without screaming. I don't want it that intense. Intense but not that intense and my **** burned after. Again help? Advice?
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Wow, you did have the big one. Count yourself among the lucky ones. The women who are lucky enough to have an orgasm at all do not normally get to have the big one. Most males are not skillful enough to bring their partner to that place. If you find someone who is then you have found not only a skillful lover but one who is interested in more than just his own pleasure.
I suspect part of what scared you was not knowing what to expect and then having such an intense orgasm is the real problem. Having sex and not having an orgasm will become less and less satisfying as you will not have the release you need that sex brings and not just the sexual release. Just as intense as the orgasm is, now that you have had one, is almost as intense as the body relaxing afterwards. Its a total relaxation that cannot be had any other way. It may not last long but for the time it does it is absolutely terrific.
Know that you have had an orgasm the next one won't be so scary. Having one with a live partner probably won't be as intense unless he is extremely skilled or you are both comfortable enough with each other to communicate you sexual needs to each other.
As for the burning sensation afterwards? You probably did not use a lubricant or enough lubricant with the vibrator is one thought. The other though is more of a question. Most vibrators are covered in latex. Is it possible you are allergic to latex?
If you’re not sure of an answer. If you used a lubricant and plenty of it then I would suggest being tested. Not just for using your vibrators. It is important to know if you have an allergy to Latex if you are ever hospitalized for any reason. Doctors need to know this as latex products are widely used in hospitals.
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Your comment of finding it scary takes me back many many years to when I was about 15 and gave myself my first orgasm. The things I was feeling and doing scared me so much I didn't do anything for 2 years after. LOL
I just want you to understand that you can't custom order your orgasm, and pick and choose like what ingrediants you're putting in tonights soup.
I have come to discover over time that those intense reactions from my body are normal
My suggestion is to take things slow and get used to it slowly going further. The great thing about orgasms is that they are stress relieving and actually healthy for you physically in many ways.
A females clit has thousands of nerve endings, 3 to 4 times the amount that the head of a penis has so of course what you are going to feel is intense. BTW, 75% or more of females never have an orgasm in their life and a smaller percent only through clitoral stimulation but not during sex. As for a burning sensation, perhaps you didnt use enough lubrication? Was this a burning and soreness that lasted a long time or was only related to directing after the orgasm? Those nerve endings are going to be extra sensitive afterwards and I suppose you could say it is a burning sensation.
Train your body slowly to get used to it. I don't really know a way to train my body to "Not" response. Perhaps only 1 in 100 learn how. Your bodys response in sex is going to happen whether your mind wants it to or not. It's an involuntary action like when the doctor taps your knee to see if the leg will jerk. Your mind didn't choose to make it do that, nor could it decide to not allow the leg to jerk. My opinion is that sex is like that. If you do anything to stimulate, you are going to get responses but one day it might be a light orgasm no screaming and the next, hard and intense all from the same stimulation.
The point you mention of you feeling the need to pee, is the point just before a big g-spot orgasm. If you drain your bladder before doing so, you'll know its empty so when that feeling comes, if you can train yourself to let go, you can have great orgasms.
It might be helpful to study the physiology of orgasms as taught to med students in short you tube videos with helpful diagrams. I will add those links for you. Perhaps if you understand how your sexual organs work to achieve orgasm, you may find your own ways to gain some control over them.
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