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12 years old and hate how I look
So I'm 12 year old girl and I hate how I look. I am the ugliest person in the world. I want to look prettier. What can I do with out getting in trouble with my parents?
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I hate to say this, and it actually kind of hurts to, but feeling this way...it's normal.
Everyone has things they don't like about themselves. I'm 23, and I've struggled with my looks since I was 8. I remember being in 2nd grade and telling my mother that I was ugly and I was always going to be that way. My confidence has come a long way since then, but I still have my days where I honestly believe that if being unattractive was a crime, I would serve a lifetime in prison.
I can honestly tell you though that some people that are considered unattractive by society's standards are some of the most beautiful people you will ever meet. Your looks are not important. Yes, they get the attention, but your personality is what will keep people coming back for more. As long as you are a good person, who's genuine and caring, you will be beautiful in more ways than one.
As far as your parents go, talk to your mom. Ask her how old she was when she first started wearing make-up and then see what she would be okay with letting you do. You're 12, so she's probably not going to let you do much, but I'm sure she'll start with baby steps and you can work your way up as you get older. But really sweetie, you're probably beautiful. We're all our own worst critics, and we see ourselves in a completely different way than everyone else sees us. Don't worry about your looks so much. Society is wrong, and you don't have to be stick-thin, blonde or super tan to be attractive.
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Wow your me 1 year younger. Well don't worry! All the ugly people in school are really pretty when they are older! Don't worry you will be as pretty as Megan fox (Don't have surgery)
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Ok well I doubt you're the ugliest person in the world. The number one thing you do need to work on is your self esteem.
So you don't feel pretty, all of us feel that way at some point. So you do things to make you feel better and make you feel pretty.
Since you're 12, make up probably isn't an option.
I'm not sure what you don't like about yourself. If it's acne, you can take medicine for that or buy face wash at the store. If it's weight, you can eat better and work out. If it's hair, get a cute hair cut.
All in all, you should do things girls do to make themselves feel better. Dress in nice flattering clothes. That doesn't mean you need to wear super tight clothing or extremely revealing clothing but wear clothes that make you look and feel good. They don't need to be super expensive clothing or anything either. Just look around and shop for clothes that look pretty on you but also aren't too mature looking.
But number one thing to work on is your confidence. It's important that you work on this now because when you get older, you'll end up feeling worse. Going through puberty sucks and most girls don't like themselves at that age. Being a happy girl who learns to love herself no matter what she looks like with actually be happy.
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I like the advice givenabout comparing celebrities to photos of them without makeup on cus I often tell the same thing to young girls. If you can't find a site on your own, ask me and I'll find it for you.
For one thing, you need to realize you are not done growing yet and what you will end up looking like as an adult will be quite different than what you look like right now.
Young girls are very gullible when it comes to their image. They will believe anything that adverstisers tell them. Pre teens used to not be targeted in advertising but as sales of product to adults began to fall, maybe due to the economy, advertising turned to attempting to target college and high school girls. Many teens who work a job or get a good allowance have their own money to spend and when that wasn't enough in sales, they went even younger in what is shown in tv shows, movies, commericials, etc. They worry about how they look compared to girls their age in tv movies or commercials or even to girls they go to school with who have bought into the pressure from media and fuss with hair, makeup nails and the latest name brand fashions.
Its likely they want to look cute for the guys and attract the attention of the boys their age in school. And that's probably what has you concerned.
Truth be told, young boys are not concerned with whether you wear the latest name brand fashions, and its the same for older men. All they want is for the girl to wear something where the style and colors are flattering for her complexion and height and current body type, and it fits well. While young boys are going through puberty, the sexual urges they feel are new and their heads may turn to view the girl showing more flesh, as a rule, they prefer the modest look that still shows off a bit naturally but isn't trying to advertise her body by all her body features spilling out all over. If you don't believe me, you can start viewing some dating and relationship help you tube videos where guys of all ages, even young ones, tell girls what a guy really likes. Not just some, but ALL of them said that was more strongly attractive to them about the females is not how pretty they look but their confidence. Several will say that an average looking woman who wasn't as pretty as others, was for sure guaranteed to get a guys interest over the pretty ones in looks if she had confidence and they didn't. It might help you more to study what it is that young men and teen boys are attracted to in girls.
How are you going to believe? The advertizers who are trying to con you into believing their products will make you attractive to guys, or the guys themselves? A twelve yr old boy may have trouble putting it into words to explain to you, but if a 16 or 20 yr old already has figured out what is a turn on about a girl and what is a turn off, it would be smart to know that. If you want to do the research and want help finding some sites, let me know. The majority of turn offs about a girl are all behavior related btw.
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It is true as a 33 year old woman I can tell you that at your age I felt ugly at times and even today there are times when I really don't like the way I look. Trust me this feeling will change. But for right now you need to focus on what you like about yourself and your looks. If you have long beautiful hair you can wear it down more often. You really don't need makeup at your age but once your parents allow you to wear makeup eyeliner does a world of wonder in bringing out your beautiful eyes. Without knowing exactly what you don't like about your looks its hard to say what you can do. Do you ever watch America's Next Top Model? Have you noticed that the facial feature the girls hate about themselves the most is the one thing others find beautiful. You need to be proud of your unique look and realize anyone who may say negative things about you only do so because they feel bad about themselves.I promise when you get older you will look back and laugh at how you once thought of yourself. All these super models and actresses on TV have a lot of help. Look online and google pictures of famous people you think look good and then google what they looked like before they were famous, or without makeup, or as a child. I promise you will be surprised. Hangin there you are beautiful inside and out. And you are worth so much more than your outward appearance. You will be loved for the wonderful you.
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Okay time for a little grandfatherly advice. Since I am of that age I will offer some. Right now you and just about every young lady your age feels as you do. You are not ugly; you are a young lady who is just starting through puberty or about to enter puberty. Over the next few years everything about you will change and not just the shape of your body.
The shape of your face will change, the texture of their hair will change even the texture of their skin will become softer. In some girls even the color of their eyes take on a new hue. This is all part of becoming a woman.
For girls puberty brings on some drastic changes. Fortunately most of the changes happen slowly. Guys on the other hand puberty causes few changes. Their facial hair comes in along with other body hair. They start shaving. Their voice changes and they hit a growth spurt.
For girls their boy takes on a more womanly shape and this can continue well into their early twenties when the final body form is reached. Your face softens as does the skin. You will learn to use makeup to highlight and soften different areas.
No you’re not ugly that I can assure you. You are prepubescent and that time will fix. Until then do not use any make up for it will do more harm than good. Fix your hair to highlight you face and a little lip gloss is all you need for now. Trust me I've been there with my nieces helping my sister as a single parent raise them. At 12 they felt just like you and today they are very lovely young ladies.
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