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Whats wrong with me
I am a nice person but I have acne, I'm really skinny, have a long neck, a flat chest, a flat butt, huge hands, fat fingers, really small wrists (I can fit in my baby bracelet), and I'm over all ugly. My best friend though is pretty, is big were she needs to be and all the boys like her. Is there something wrong with me? I wear makeup every day to "cover the ugly" but some how it just breaks through. I'm not asking for people to feel sorry for me I just want to know what I'm doing wrong
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Light of truth is right. Work on self confidence and don't compare yourself to what you think is prettier than you. I just recently watched a you tube show done by men for women and the guys discussed what it is they find most attractive in a woman. Mind you these were guys in their thirties or just turning 40. And young guys may not have matured enough to know what they want yet. And since all men at any age are visual and will check out a females body at any age, the one thing they are most attracted to is a females confidence, she knows what goals she has in life or has certain interests she follows, she has her own path and doesnt have to follow the crowd and be like everyone else. She is happy in her own body, is not insecure and always asking if he likes her, or loves her or how she looks in this or that. This is what is most attractive to a guy, so much that if they can't find it in someone in their age bracket, some are willing to look into females who are older than them. They recalled teen and 20's age range where the girls might have been pretty but didn't hold thier interest totally cus she was so insecure and in experienced which could have been off set by doing some study on studying dating and relationships, how to understand and relate to men. A young gal who did that and was happy with her own looks got as many men falling over her as some of the pretty girls who couldnt understand what she had to attract guys with. Most guys admitted they looked and went for while a teen but as they grew older, they found they disliked the boob jobs, fancy new hair do's and nails and tons of makeup girls did to be attractive, they preferred the real woman, not made up. Just for a comparison from real life, I am 55. I wear my hair long, and it had some silver strands, I have the fine wrinkles in my face now, I have always had a nose with a big bump in the middle, have a short torso and very little waist therefore, I have knobby boney elbows, my wrists are boney and probably about the size of a 5th graders and I am short , 5'2. I started out shy as a kid and teen. Looking back, even though I didn't think i was ugly, I didnt feel anything remarkable either. However as my confidence in myself grew, so did mens interests. Even as a mom with 3 kids in tow at a department store, I'd catch men eyeing me and if they caught my eye, sometimes would wink at me. It was a wonderful compliment to a lady who doesnt quite feel sexy while being mom. By time I left an abusive 1st husband, I had gained even more confidence, developed particular interests and I knew now what I was looking for in a guy and went to dating sites with an exact list. I have never in my life realized how many men find me attractive as I learned then. Yes, some wrote just wanting sex, I was looking for a life partner. Several wrote who were putting in searches for someone with similar interests and once they got to talk to me, I became totally irresistable cus of who I was on the inside. I found my wonderful guy there. And even though married, guys still find me like on Facebook for example and write me saying they are looking for a female to date and hopefully marry. They're still drawn to me though I am 55. And honey, they not all my age. I've got those in their late twenties, thirties and forties, all who wish they could have me. I am no raving beauty but the men I attract don't go by Hollywoods and fashion industrys idea of beauty...they want the real woman with her wrinkles, skin tags, freckles, little belly rolls from having kids and small breasts. Hope this gives you some hope that not all is impossible for you. Work on your mind set and your self image and good luck dear.
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You're not doing anything wrong besides being insecure.
Obviously a lot of girls are insecure about how they look, but it really shouldn't be that way. You should learn to love yourself and the confidence will show.
I've seen lots of questions like these where girls are best friends with a pretty girl and they compare themselves to her.
So no, you're not doing anything wrong besides not liking yourself and finding all your flaws. Nobody is perfect and everybody has things they'd like to change but at one point you're going to have to accept yourself and learn to love yourself.
You'll find that even the girls who aren't considered the prettiest of girls can actually get boys because of their confidence.
So my advice is to work on loving yourself.
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I'm sure you look fine. Acne is just part of growing up. Guys like skinny girls and having a long neck is completely normal. There is nothing you are doing wrong, it's just how you were made. Just tell yourself what I always told myself: The ugly duckling grew up to be a beautiful swan.
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