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Which to choose - business or take the job offered?
I am 37 yrs old single,unmarried & unemployed man living with my parents in Calcutta,India.This is my hometown. I am confused with my career and life. I don't know what are my goals or what to do? Only thing I presently understand is that I need to remove my 'single' status from my CV & I need a female life-partner(I'm straight guy). Why I am so late is a very long story but in gist I can say that my family(consists of my parents and sister & bro-in-law who stays far away in another city of India viz. Mumbai) & I do no go along & I have a troubled relationship with them often leading to violent fights and breakage by me.
Now this sister's husband is the Country Manager of a Pharma company where I used to work earlier as a Medical Representative but left due to job dissatisfaction and not being able to meet targets Overall I dont want to go back to sales. After that I was pursuing CCNA but in the midst my sister agreed to help me get a job in her husband's office as a Office Admin[BTW,I am a BSc(Pure Science)] in Mumbai city.
Now I am in a dilemma,since they are also offering to start a pharma stockist wholesale business in our premises as an alternative & since my brother-in-law is in a pharma company ,my father is saying that he will be able to guide me in this business. But they will also take another partner who is by relation my mother's brother (not real brother though) . Actually my parents dont treat me like their son anymore and they rely on their daughter and son-in-law since they are rich and powerful.
So I am confused with which of these options to take ? The job in Mumbai has an annual package of 2.75 lakhs Rupees whereas the business may be a success or failure ,also i have no idea of business and what my father is saying that it is better to join the Mumbai Office Admin job rather than doing business since return from business takes time and may even be a loss in which case I dont know what will happen since the entire capital will be invested by my brother-in-law.
So seeing my condition ,what should I do? Should I rely on my sister & brother-in-law and do either business or work in the job offered?
Or should I try something on my own?
Is it good to rely upon them?
Please looking for some generously given good advice. I dont want to get dependent on them and hear their words forthe rest of life.I am really in need of some good advice. I am in crisis situation .Plz help..
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Hello there. Your story is very complicated filled with twist and turns. It seems like you just want someone to tell you what to do...... to make the decision for you. The truth is it's all up to you. I live in America; and where I'm from a 37 year old man that lives with his parents Is frowned upon because it shows That he is not independent. I know Indian culture is different family means a lot and an adult living with parents is Normal; but there is a reason your parents brother and sister in-law don't respect you. It is because you rely on them way too much. It is time you stand up on your own two feet and do what's best for you. Your family will never respect you until you come out of the shadows and control your own destiny. If you want a relationship you have to bring something to the table no woman likes an unemployed man. Remember this, IF YOU WANT SOMETHING YOU'VE NEVER HAD DO SOMETHING YOU'VE NEVER DONE. Don't worry about what your dad says or how much money you'll get or what others think of you. Close your eyes relax and think about what you want out of life most and it will come to you. Follow your passion and every thing else will fall into place.
I hope I helped you a little
Best of luck to you.
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