I'm having my second child in less than a month. My last birth ended in an emergency c-section, so this time around things will be completely different. Is it selfish of me to ask that no one besides my husband and 2 year old daughter be in recovery? My Mom and sisters are acting like it's the end of the world. With my first, I was the last one to hold my daughter and my mom was asking for her own copies of hand/foot prints, asking the nurses to hold the baby up to take a picture, etc. I'm not saying no one gets to see this child when it's born but I want my older child to have that special time first. Thoughts?
This is a very special time for you and your immediate family which is limited to you, your husband and your other children if the hospital allows. You and your immediate family should be allowed to enjoy the moment before the grandparents Aunts and Uncles invade your privacy and try to monopolize whatever time you can have with your newborn before it has to go off to the nursery.
This is a special time for the grandparent as well; this is also very true. But grandparents need to know their place. Just as we become second in their lives to our children. They have to remember who the parents are and who the grandparents are.
It is not the end of the world if you mom and sister wait in the waiting room while you and your husband and first born enjoy some moments alone with your newborn. They have a lifetime to enjoy both of your children. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
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