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How can I help my family get through this?
I am a 14 year old female. I live in the United States. My grandmother is very ill. She lives in mexico. We found out on 4th of July that she was in the hospital. My mom is very very very strong, just like the rest of her family. It's just a couple of months ago she lost her sister, due to some heart issues. It seems that my grandmother is having the same issues that my aunt (the one who passed away), also had. Right when we found out, my mother and I wanted to go to Mexico to go see her. Although it isn't easy. My aunt lived in San Diego which is about 2 hours away, It was must easier to go visit her. While my grandmother lives in Mexico, a different country! Airline tickets and too expensive and I have a phobia so we decided we'd go driving there. We found out she had surgery and she was handling it just fine. Also we were suppose to leave on Thursday, July 11 but today Tuesday, July 09 we received a phone call. My grandmother was doing better a couple of days ago, and now they found out she has an infection and is very ill. Now we have to leave On Wednesday. Honestly I'm very scared. I get car sick easily, I get claustrophobic easily, its a full day and 3 hour drive. I am leaving for 2 weeks and I have never been away from my sister, father, and home for that long. It worries me that it might just be to much to handle and i'll just have a huge break down. I try really hard not to cry in front of my mother. I wanna be as strong as she is but I just hate the fact that I'm going to see her and the rest of my loved ones in such a bad mood. Please give me tips on how to comfort them and how to comfort myself!
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I don't know if there are any age limits to using a motion sickness medication but first, ask pharmacist at your local pharmacy and get a recommendation and make sure to take it before you get in the car, not after you begin to feel the symptoms. If you are feeling better physically, it won't be as overwhelming when dealing with your emotions.
It is so good to hear how close you and your family are. Not everyone is blessed that way. Being away from family and home will need to be looked at as an adventure. You will soon be in high school and will that there may come chance to be away from home on band or concert trips or for sport events. Its better that you experience it now so you dont have a breakdown in front of peers later. Any new, unknown is scary to every human, its just we don't all show it or react differently. So its okay to be nervous about being away from home...thats natural, not a sign of weakness. It would not be good for yourself to bottle up tears and not cry if the mood hits. Always allow yourself to be real and true to yourself. Never try to change who you naturally are to be like someone you admire or adore such as your mom. Since you are already worried about it, your subconscious mind that controls all your emotions is scared that you are going to try to force yourself not to cry.
Bottling it up can cause more problems for you healthwise than help your mother. Crying is a good natural release for the body. Some people don't need to cry as much as others. Just trust me for now. If in the future you get a chance to study on line about chakra's and stuck energy in your body, you will understand why I have said so. The stuck energy of bottling up your feeling can easily cause medical problems in your body and in extreme cases become a disease.
Just the fact that you are accompanying your mom and her having you present is the best thing you can do for her. She does not have to face this alone. Look at this also as a special privilege to see your Grandma one more time before she possibly passes on. Perhaps having another purpose to focus on while there will be helpful to you. Think of those who can't be at her side at the end, how precious would it be to hear a tape recording of her voice and a message from her if she is strong enough to talk and maybe filming her with a cell camera. Take several different videos. Take extra batteries for camera. Get shots of your mom with your grandma together. Eventually it will be good for her to have those videos and photos to remember her last times with mom. Your mom as her daughter is less likely going to be able to do this herself, as her focus will be on her mom, your grandma. Give yourself time to hug and love on her and talk to her and maybe have someone else get pics of you with her.
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You are only 14 so don't expect to be able to handle everything just yet, the fact you are asking this and caring about it shows that you are very loving and kind towards your family and for that you should be very proud.
Try to stay in the moment, the best way to do this is to breathe deeply and try not to let your mind wander to tomorrow concentrate on the things you must do today.
When you are driving down make sure you keep your windows open in the car for fresh air and if you get claustrophobic ask your mom to stop for a bit.
I lost my aunty at 14 and I loved her so so much, but so i know how hard it is, the best thing you can do for your grandmother is give her as much love for her as you can.
I hope this helps in some small way, I am 23 by the way so still just learning about life!
Good luck and blessings your way to you, your mom and you grandmother.
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