Hi everyone I can't orgasm. I cant make myself orgasm and neither can my boyfriend. My dr says I may not be comfortable with him but I am! We have been together over a year... Does anyone have key tips and pointers? Does the clitorus really have to be touched? Any suggested positions? Anything please! Thank you
rainhorse68 answered Wednesday May 29 2013, 5:21 am: Hi. From the point of view of the 'mechanics' of the thing as you might say, stimulating the clitoris is probably THE most likely way to reach orgasm. But of course, just going straight for it won't put you in the mood for sex, and won't help you reach that point where you really feel comfortable about 'letting go' in front of him and enjoying an orgasm. That's the most common 'brake' and probably why your doc mentioned it, physival reasons are much, much rarer. Penetration alone isn't the most likely way either. As for positions, well one where your partner can easily 'reach you' and stimulate you using his fingertips at the right moments can be a real help. Possibly not the place for a full discussion of such things, but the much-mentioned and ever popular doggy-style means he can easily reach round as it were, and the less directand close-up 'eye-to-eye' contact might make you feel a bit more inclined to really let yourself go? I have personally known women who believe they must look a bit funny/stupid/weird etc when they reach orgasm. Whereas us guys think entirely the opposite, and find it an extremely pleasant and enjoyable sight when our girlfriends display such intense pleasure. Any help? [ rainhorse68's advice column | Ask rainhorse68 A Question ]
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