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problems in cuming
i am 16/f. last year i started rubbing my cilt and initially i got an orgasm 2 times. it felt great. however i did not cum. but then everything stopped . for the past one year i feel absolutely nothing when i touch myself. i have even tried fingering but all i feel is something is moving in and out..no pleasure at all.rubbing my cilt is useless and i absolutely have no sensation there. i do get wet ...something watery and jelly like comes out but i never cum. what is wrong with me?all my friends say it feels great and some 13 yr old girls whom i know cum regularly...why can't i?
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Hi honey,
So when you say cum i'm assuming you mean female ejaculation? So the reason you never experienced it when you had orgasms from rubbing your clit is because female ejaculation comes from a different type of orgasm. It comes from a G-spot orgasm. Your G-spot is a gland up behind your pubic bone. It produces a rather wet orgasm. Some women have a G-spot that is very easily reached others have one that is not. For a G-spot orgasm you need consistent and direct stimulation. Basically not only do you need to find it but you need to hang out there for a while.
Secondly not every women "cums," There are women known as "squirters," when they have a G-spt orgasm fluid from their gland squirts out similar to the way it does for a man. Not all women have this ability. Some women just produce a small or large puddle of gland fluid that is on the sheets after the orgasm. Some women's glands don't secret fluid at all! For some women a G-spot orgasm is simply a warm liquid feeling with no actual secretion of fluid. You may be a woman that doesn't secret fluid when you have an orgasm.
Lucky for you, you are only 16 and you have a whole life time ahead of you to discover your body and find out which type of orgasms you have and which type you like to have.
If you want to experiment with ways of having a G-spot orgasm or new ways of stimulating your clit. Using a dildo or clit stimulator may be a good option for you. Since you are not 18 your not old enough to go to a sex store or buy a toy legally so you would need the assistance of a parent or older friend or sibling. If not keep experimenting with your fingers and try incorporating the use of your PC muscle. Your PC muscle is the muscle that controls your pee. Next time you go pee try stopping your pee in the middle and just stop and start it for bit. This will help you identify your PC muscle. Once you have identified it practice flexing and releasing it while you masturbate. You can also practice anytime. These are called Kegel exorcizes. You can look up the term on google if you want more information about how to do them and how they can assist you in achieving an orgasm.
Also don't compare your body's ability to other people's. Every women is different and it doesn't matter your age. Everyone has a different body with different likes and dislikes and types of orgasms. Just worry about getting to know you and your body. Thats how you have the best orgasm you can have! ;)
Good luck honey! I'm proud of you for being comfortable discovering your body and sexual ability at such a young age. I think we need more women like you that are not ashamed of their bodies and want to experiment and learn about themselves.
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I'm not really sure what you mean by "cum". The height of the female experience is the orgasm. Unlike with a guy, girls don't really "cum". If you're referring to "squiring" or female ejaculation, that's something different altogether that many women can't do and isn't something that feels any better than just a regular old orgasm from my experience. As I said before, "cum" isn't a term that is really used with girls, so it could be that your friends are just using "orgasm" and "cum" as the same thing. I can't think of anything that is wrong with you at all. Female ejaculation just makes a mess and some guys aren't really into it so it's probably a good thing that you don't do that. I would not trust a 13 year old to know the correct terminology or understand what is going on with her body well enough to communicate it to you correctly. Quit worrying about a problem that doesn't even exist. The worry and thinking about whether or not you'll "cum" is probably what is making you unable to orgasm. Just relax and know that the orgasm is the best part and you're totally able to do that, which you're very lucky for. Many women can't. You're completely fine and normal. Good luck!
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