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Trouble feeling anything during sex
I've been having sex for a while now. I've slept with five guys and I've never been able to feel anything. My friends are always talking about how amazing it feels and I have no idea what that feeling is. I've tried masturbating and even then I still feel nothing. I do get wet while having sex but all I can feel is the penis going in and out but never a pleasure sensation or anything no matter what they do. The first time ever having sex it didn't hurt or anything i just felt nothing. What is wrong with me? I want to be able to enjoy sex. I also barley ever get horny the only time I do is if I'm watching porn not when someone is fingering me or eating me out. I have a bf now who I love and I really want to feel something with him but no matter what I just can't seem to?
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You didn't give a lot of detail, but you may just not be getting much from vaginal stimulation. It isn't uncommon for women to be unable to orgasm through vaginal sex alone. Try clitoral stimulation and see if that helps. A vibrator is something to try if you haven't yet. You can even use it with a guy, you don't have to use it when you're alone. The other thing I wanted you to consider is this: sex is much better with someone that you're deeply in love with and/or that you're very attracted to. You say "I've slept with five guys" rather off-handedly. Did you date each of those five guys for a long time and fall in love with them? Were you really, seriously attracted to them? Did you want to have sex with them or was it their idea or something you wanted to try because your friends were saying it was great? You have to want to for it to be enjoyable. It doesn't seem as if you put a lot of meaning into sex, which can help it actually feel better. If you're not getting into having sex, but porn gets you going, try having sex with a mirror in the room or with a webcam on a computer (just so it shows the image if you on the screen, you don't have to broadcast it to anyone) so you can watch. If you really trust the guy and yourself, you could record it to watch later. The idea that you're being recorded could be a turn-on. All you can do is keep trying different things until you find something that works. Just don't start having sex with different guys thinking that one of them will be what you're hoping for. You don't want that kind of reputation and until you work on you and figure out what it is that you need, no guy will be able to give you what you want. They won't know what you need until you tell them, which means you have to find out first! The last thing I want to say is that it's possible that most of your friends are making things up. Some of them may be lying about sex being amazing and others may even be lying about having had sex at all! Don't base your own experience on theirs. Good luck :)
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As already mentioned, is this non-feeling related only to sex or do you not feel any other sensations as well like pain?
If this is related to sex, I can think of a couple things all which you need to see an ob dr for. It could be your natural hormones run on the low side.
Or if you are using a hormonal based contraceptive, the shot, pill, Mirena iud, one of the side effects is killing the libido. You may need a different contraceptive. So check with your doctor.
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I'm not a doctor, none of us are so we cannot make a diagnoses. What I can do is make a guess at what I think may be the problem. To do that is wrong without also suggesting that you need to see a doctor for while your problem could be very normal it could also be something that is not normal and seated in the physical or because of something that is troubling you.
The proper doctors to see would be your Gynecologist, without mom being in the exam room, I'll explain how in a bit, for you need to be able to speak freely with the doctor. If after examination nothing is found wrong then a psychologist for some counseling to find other causes.
The two major factors for not finding both relief and pleasure from sex are stress and fear. There is also a third which has to do more with very strict religious upbringing.
There is one thing that bothers me which is that you felt no pain the first time you had sex. Sex for the first time, if the Hymen is torn should cause some pain it may be little it may be a lot but you should feel something as a part of you is being torn.
Do you ever feel physical pain? Where you spanked as a young child? Did you feel the spanking? Did you cry? If you burn yourself do you feel pain? If someone were to hit you do you feel pain? These questions are important as there is a medical condition where people do not feel pain. If you were ever spanked and not felt pain or burnt yourself and not felt pain or have been hit or injured yourself and not felt pain. It is important to tell the doctor this.
As for fear and stress. These are two big factors as to how are body operates abnormally. Stress and fear interrupts are normal ebb and flow so to speak of the bodies natural cycle. This is where a psychologist can be of more help to you than your medical doctor. The psychologist can help you uncover what is causing the stress or fear and help you deal with it better.
Now when visiting any doctor for this problem; since you I believe are over 14 years of age and this problem relates to your reproductive health. By a federal law called HIPPA; Congress has given you total medical confidentiality as it relates to your reproductive health. This means you can make appointments, see doctors, discuss problems and be treated for any condition related to your reproductive health with or without parental permission. You can also ask for and be given prescriptions for birth control medication. All of this is your right under HIPPA and your parents have no right to know. They cannot access this portion of your medical records or be told anything by the doctors who are treating you without your expressed written permission.
This would include anything related to a pregnancy which is why you can ask for birth control. You parents cannot force you to have an abortion or stop you from getting one.
While mom can still force you to go to a doctor, at anytime till your 18. When it comes to your reproductive system all you have to say to the doctor is; "I invoke my rights under HIPPA" and mom cannot be in the exam room with while your examined or know anything about this portion of your medical exam.
Congress passed this law so that young people, guys and gals, will seek medical attention for there reproductive health when needed. So that they can speak openly and freely with their doctors so that they receive proper medical care.
Just so you know I am old enough to be your grandfather and I would tell my granddaughter this same information about HIPPA. It is not a license to go out and have sex, though for you that horse has already left the gate. It is a license for you to make sure that your reproductive system is properly cared for so that you may enjoy being a parent should you desire to be one when the time is right for you.
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may be you are some stressed ,there are some tips you can apply at the time of sex .
1-when you go on bed not think about any idea about out of the world ,think only about sex
2-wear sexy cloths
3-fully support you bf
4-before sex minimum 30 minutes kisses each other and touch private part and suck it
5-do sex with more angles.you can see it in porn movie
6-concentrate only sex
7-at the time of sex ,move all tense out from bed room ,relax and feel hot yourself.am sure you feel sensation
my girl friend also not feel sensation but before sex frist i kiss her all body touch her private part and finger her ,suck her boobs.and then i go for sex she feel very pleasure now we are happy
so just relax and feel happy and try to do her best .best of luck
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