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cant masturbate
I'm a 13 year old girl and the first time I masturbated it was great.after that I never felt anything again except for a little bit a month later. All my friends do it all the time and say its great.ive tried everything. What's wrong with me?
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Relax young Miss! You're perfectly normal. Nothing 'wrong' at all. And you're friends who seem to be enjoying it much more frequently and discussing it...they're perfectly normal too! There's not a right or wrong amount to do it. It's for when you feel the urge or need (and are somewhere private of course!) Enjoy it when it comes along, don't stress and try to 'make it happen' if it doesn't for a bit. If it's a case of wanting to do it alright, but it's not quite 'happening' to your satisfaction when you try, how about a bit of a 'woman-to-woman chat', as it were with your closest girl friend and see if she can suggest some tips techniques that work for her? Where, for how long...that kind of thing? One pretty sure way of putting the dampers, so to speak, on your enjoyment is WORRYING about it. You're clearly not hung-up about the idea of doing, not got a silly idea that it's 'wrong' in some way. And you've had one good result already. All of which is excellent news. So I'm temted so say, relax mate...it'll all happen for you too. OK?
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You mention your friends do it all the time. Are you trying to keep up with doing it as often as they do? You know..like trying to be the same as others? The pressure you put yourself under in trying to match your peers could possibly be what makes it difficult.
YOu see, our mind is really our greatest sexual organ. If there is worry over parents discovering you've done this or perhaps they have religious views that it is wrong...those thoughts bouncing around in your head can dampen the ability to have an orgasm. If it is religious views, do not feel guilty about it. The christian church is quite wrong on some things like this. Been there done that.
Or you could be the type of person like myself who requires more intensity, I am intense as a creature by nature as a Scorpio, intense in anything hobby, in conversation and as well in sexuality. So perhaps all you need is more intense stimulation than your hand can give. Get a vibrator. If you maturbated wiht a vibrator and had this problem, it wasn't a good one. Sorry to tell you there are not many good ones on the market. I get the idea that it isnt women designing them but men cus most arent helpful. If you go shopping for one, get over your shyness this is important. Pick up all the models on display with batteries in them and hold them to your crotch while clothed. If it is strong enough to get a good tingling sensation through the clothing, it will be perfect for you. Or ask the clerk if those are old batteries in the products. Tell her what you are looking for but stress the fact that you want to test the strength of the item on yourself through the clothes. Something shrink wrapped that she suggests isn't going to help unless she is willing to open the package in effort to possibly make a sale.
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