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How do men wait for there women to climax before they do?
How do I make my boyfriend last as long as I do to climax?
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Jeez...if I had a one-stop fix for this I'd publish it and make a million! Let's look at a few things. It's basically a timing problem. Guys go from unaroused to fully aroused pretty quickly. From here they soon get to climax and ejaculate. Then return to an unaroused state. Picture a sort of graph where the line goes up quick and steep, a narrow peak at the top and then straight back down to zero. Women go from unaroused to what the biological types call a 'plateau stage'. Where they're horny but not orgasmic. Picture a line going quite steeply up at first, then levelling out. For you, coming needs another rise in arousal level. But unlike us mere blokes, you ladies can stay 'on the pleateau level' for a LONG time. And after coming, only return to the plateau level, not right back down to zero. Are you with me so far? So how do you use this boring info? Try getting your boyfriend to get you well and truly on that plateau with LOADS of prolonged foreplay. Don't let him 'start' as it were, or he'll just reach his peak...game over! When you feel like you're well worked-up, on the way to coming, THEN he penetratres you and does his 'bloke stuff'. He's giving you a good 'head start' if you like. There's now a much better chance that he'll still be going when you reach your climax. To shorten the odds further still, it helps if he consciously
tries to 'hold back'. Pressing less quickly and urgently when he feels he's about to come, perhaps repeating it a few times. This should delay things and mean you'll actually be having sex for much longer. Be a bit patient and understanding with him at first. From the blokes point of view...welll...it's a big ask! Still, with a bit of practice eh? Tell him his own climax will be much stronger and more pleasurable the longer he 'holds on'. (It really IS too...you're not telling him fibs!!) Of course, a big part of satisfying you is in his attitude and technique, so make sure you tell him what you like...and dislike. Don't be shy. We're not mind readers, but I honestly think most decent blokes, when they're with a girl they're dead keen on do really want HER to have a good, satisfying experience. When you've got him pushing all the right buttons, and sorted out this frustrating 'timing issue' I reckon you'll be coming first plenty of the time. Oh, and don't get sidetracked too much with various lotions, pills and devices etc which are supposed to give a guy an everlasting erection without ejaculating. They're pretty much 'snake-oil' for want of a better term. I'm sure general medical opinion would agree that the only 'sex pills' that do anything are the Levitra/Viagra types which allow blokes with genuine erectile dysfunction to enjoy normal, healthy sex lives. The rest...dubious. If orgasm-cream existed...wouldn't it sell in shed-loads! Sorry for long waffly answer...I'm a bit of a loose-end now the Cheltenham Gold Cup's finished!! Have fun...and happy orgasms, with a bit of luck!
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To be extremely honest; it takes practice and getting to know your partner.
This means communicating with your partner what you like and don't like. Do you need more foreplay before intercourse. As boys we learn much about making love from porn movies and magazines. This is not the right way to learn as these are for titillation not to educate.
Women have two ways of being sexually excited; vaginally and clitoral. The porn mostly shows women being vaginally excited during foreplay. You may be one of the 20% of women who need more clitoral stimulation. Then of course there is the foreplay itself where to touch you and how to excite you. The same goes for him telling you his likes, desires and dislikes.
Last but not least. If you boyfriend is quick on the trigger, not unusual for young men. There are techniques you can learn to hold of his ejaculation until your ready. You can research this on the web. Enter premature ejaculation and a host of answer sill come up on any search engine you use.
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You can't, if there was a way to make that happen, it would probably solve the worlds problems. There are some tricks that can be used, but the best way is to understand the process. Here are a few facts; As the male climax nears, the testicles are drawn in closer to the body, you can postpone ejection by reversing this, but it is tough. Men are mostly visual in nature, women are mostly mental, (Leave out the jokes now guys), so it takes women longer to achieve orgasm. This is easier to work with then the old trick of men thinking things that actually serves to turn him off to last longer. Like the movie says, men think of sex on average of once every 4 minutes, (I think it's more often then that), so they are perpetually ready. The penis is more sensitive then the vagina, (the head in particular, stimulation of the head is what triggers orgasm). In difference to the vagina, which has very little feeling beyond the opening. So you see, it is easier to bring the women forward to the man by using her differences, then by slowing the male down. Work on bringing yourself into your orgasm. That's not saying you have to do it yourself, but doing it yourself can be fun too. Do the guy a favor and let him watch you masturbate yourself toward orgasm, he'll learn a lot from you that way. Sex is adult play time, have fun with it. The intense love you see in movies is mostly bull, you experience that kind of sex less then you would think, because playing can be much more exciting. The one other thing I would leave you with is, because he is done, doesn't mean you have to stop, you never know what will come up if you continue. The second time around, a guy often can last much longer. If you aren't willing to explore, you won't find out how each other works. Remember, the head of the penis is very sensitive in most guys, those lucky few guys that aren't as sensitive are the ones that last longer, but some are guys are so insensitive,that they will last for hours and can't help it. This can be as unsatisfactory to a women as premature ejaculation is, but much more troublesome. As a women, you can find a way around the premature ejaculation, but for those who can't achieve ejaculation with in a reasonable time frame, it becomes a chore that is often months apart. Work together with what you got, consider yourself lucky, find your timing and have fun doing it, that's what it's all about.
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