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I can't get properly aroused or reach orgasm?
Okay so, im an 18 year old girl, I've been with my boyfriend (19) for a year and a half, we are really really comfortable with eachother. But he's never made me orgasm, then again neither have I.
I try to masturbate but perhaps I'm too impatient, nothing seems to work. The first few times I touched myself, and the first few times he did- I was really sensitive. But after that I dot feel much down there, mentally I've got a really high sex drive cos i think about it/want it all the time. But I dont seem to get physically aroused and because of that nothing builds up to an orgasm:(
I don't know what to do!
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Haha nice advice imperfectionist. So some of what that person said is true, but welcome back to reality. So if you really want to hit an orgasm there are many different ways. Yes, I am a guy, and I know someone is going to say something, but trust me I do have enough experience. So first off you guys are really young. A big sexual appetite is normal. Women orgasm on different levels. What imperfectionist is stating is trying to match a woman on an emotional level. Anatomically, the clitoris is a perfect for one area of sexual stimuli that can arouse a small orgasm. Your bf needs to read some books and understand that girls love foreplay. They do want to feel that emotional attachment, but sometimes they do want to just have dirty sex. Different positions can help you find what arouses you more. He can also try sticking fingers inside and gently massaging. The g-spot. now thats another great stimulation. Many girls are not aware of that your age. If stimulated correctly at first it will feel as though you have to go pee because the g-spot is that inner spongy lining inside your vagina just below your bladder. I suggest you go pee before you have sex and after if you can. One it prevents embarrassment if the g-spot is aroused and you do have to go pee and the other it helps prevent UTIs. Many girls feel that stimulation and stop before they hit orgasm and run to the bathroom. That is why some can not hit that exploding orgasm. You guys need to stop putting so much pressure behind it and just enjoy having sex. He needs to last a little bit longer, but not crazy long because you don't want to dry up. Yes lubrication helps, but try different things. Have you ever masturbated with a dildo. You should and preferably a vibrating one. My wife loves it and I play with her sometimes with it. She is actually more of a freak in the sheet than me. She has taught me. You should read some books and learn about your body. Yes pornos may arouse the mood, candles may set the environment, but what you must do is become comfortable with your body. Women's bodies are the most delicate beautiful things. It's not like a man's. You have so many nerve endings that send stimuli to your brain that releases the serotonin and endorphins that makes things feel good. Honestly, I find nothing sexier than a girl who knows what she wants and when she has those bedroom eyes you know it. Women can fake it easily, but us guys we can't. Therefore his aim should be to please you and you please him, but to do so, you both need practice and to learn your own body first of what makes you feel good. You can also try to experiment and he may do something that arouses you more. I suggest he learns about sex and you do as well.
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There is alot of things you can do to make yourself a bit more "orgasmic". You guys can try different positions, doggystyle is a good one. and you being on top also because it gives you control over the speed, how deep, what it hits. you can even try warming yourself up a bit first. massaging lubricant on to his penis and letting him massage only a little bit of it onto your area. He can even use his finger to rub your clitoris before or even during sex. Some people recommend watching porn before or after.
But mostly you could just be having issues with orgasms in general. and many things could be the reason of that. whether it be stress or even foods and medication you've been taking.
One day drink water that whole day. (don't ask why. but drink lots of it) and buy some scented candles. have a cup of tea before taking a warm bath. and than go in privacy light those candles, turn on a porno, and see if you can masturbate.
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