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when imaturbate i never get orgasms please help me and also when i masturbate it fells good in a bad way am i bad for doing this
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I don't know how this 'masturbation is bad & evil' idea stays alive in the modern day. NO you are not bad for doing it. Don't know you're age, but it simply isn't important. If you know what it is, what you're doing, what an orgasm is and enjoying it, you're ready. Having an orgasm (or 'coming') usually takes a bit of practice for women. So put down any guilty feelings, relax and try a few different things. The most effective areas are sort of 'outside-ish' if you know what I mean, so it's not usually a matter of how far you 'go in'. Try quality not quantity. Try less often, but longer. If you feel nicely relaxed and 'sleepy' afterwards it's probably about right. But don't keep at it until you make yourself sore down there! You might try a tube of proper lubricant from a chemist so you don't get sore, but avoid just any old scented hand cream or something, it might irritate. Enjoy any fantasies you have while you're doing it. Some people say the mind is the biggest 'sex organ' in the body, and they've got a point. I shouldn't generalise, but most women say they can come through masturbation even if they find it hard to 'let go' enough when they're with a guy. So it's more than likely you'll be enjoying an orgasm before long. You'll know when it 'comes' too! When you feel something promising is happening, that 'letting go' part is important. So you really want to make sure you've chosen a time and place where you're not likely to be suddenly disturbed. And no, not because you're doing something wrong or 'dirty', but it IS very private and personal. Enjoy yourself, it's for YOU. Don't get anxious or too eager about that orgasm, you can really enjoy masturbating without coming. Not like us blokes!! And feeling guilty or bad shouldn't even come into it. OK??
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