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uh oh... I have herpes and I am having sex with someone who didn't... I am afraid he will leave me if I tell the truth


Question Posted Sunday May 6 2012, 2:10 pm

So my boyfriend and I broke up several months ago. Once we broke up, I kinda went on a rampage of having sex and I picked up herpes from a horrible person who denies having anything. Well, me and my ex are seeing each other once again and about a month ago, we had sex at a party (once drunk & once in the morning, sober).
We've continued to see each other and last night, he entered me a couple times, but I stopped him. This morning, I went to kiss him and he jokingly said that I might have an STD and if I do have one, that I would have to tell him.
I don't know if he knows or what, but I'm afraid that he won't want to be with me anymore when I do tell him.
Advice on how to break the news to him?


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ericsmith answered Monday May 7 2012, 9:59 am:
you have to tell him because herpes can be caught even when wearing a condom because the pubic area is still exposed. wouldn't u have liked to been able to choose whether u wanted to sleep with someone with herpes or not? so give your ex the right to choose whether he wants to risk getting herpes or not.

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Amii answered Sunday May 6 2012, 4:41 pm:
The most important factor in a relationship is trust.I think you should tell you boyfriend the truth.Being in a relationship is about loving and accepting each others flaws no matter what.If he doesn't take the news postively then it just wasn't meant to be,but if he does then he truely loves you and he's willing to do everything possible to be with you.In case he couldn't handle the news and he left you,don't worry.I'm sure that there are tons of guys that would die to be with a girl like you.Be confident,and postive.You're beautiful,and stay strong no matter what happens.
Goodluch :)xx
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soadorable__x3 answered Sunday May 6 2012, 4:00 pm:
I think that you should tell him, because he has a right to know. If the two of you are meant to be and he's worth your time, he'll understand. If he catches herpes from you, you are no better than the "horrible" person who gave you the disease.

I want to ask you if you have seen a doctor, since one might be able to prescribe the medication needed for you to safely have sex with your boyfriend.

You should read this advice column, since you were just recently diagnosed. I am not sure if you know how to have sex safely with your boyfriend, in order to prevent him from having herpes: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)

I hope that I was able to help!

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