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Orgasm problems
I'm a male
So my girlfriend has been trying to get me off with her hands and mouth.. but I can't orgasm when she does it..
I noticed when i masturbate i lay down my feet kind of go farther then shoulder length apart.. and i tense up in the legs, more of a flexing of my muscles..
When I am standing up i can only if i get more on the tips of my toes and my muscles in the legs are flexing again..
Now i am very self conscious about this and have low self esteem and stuff.. I was wondering if this is normal.. and if i should tell her that is how i am or what i can do to be more "normal" I have seen porn and those guys just seem to be flat footed and stuff and just shoot it like nothing. I feel very embarrassed for even asking this, what do i do?
Do i tell her and how do i do that? Im not sure if it bothers her but it bothers me that i can't orgasm when she pleasures me and i'm not sure what to do about sex.. we haven't gone that far yet but i assume we will soon..
Any help is appreciated!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Trouble Reaching Orgasm?
First there is nothing wrong with you. Trying to ejaculate while standing up is uncomfortable and to mind unnatural.
Yes you should talk to your partner when having sex of any type and your partner should talk to you. You should tell each other what your likes and dislikes are so you both experience the maximum amount of pleasure from your sex lives.
Communication is the key to almost anything we do. In sex it is the absolute key to enjoyment. we listen to our partners to hear them moan and groan as we make love. This is a key signal that we are doing something right. Not all partners are that oral in their pleasure so communicating before and after is important.
Frankly if you are going to get naked with each other communicating your likes or dislikes should not be embarrassing. Also what you see in porn movies is staged. Cum shots are staged to give the effect the director wants and not always a direct a result of the action preceding the shot.
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Have you ever looked in to whether this could be a side-effect of medication? I'm mentioning that as some people on certain drugs have side-effects including difficulty ejaculating or in females with lubrication.
As far as porn goes it's not realistic and could even be several shots edited to get whatever they wanted across. Don't take anything you see there as a reflection of real-life.
Should you talk to your girlfriend? ABSOLUTELY! She must feel as though this is her fault. Tell her that either from self-stimulation or sex that the only position that results in ejaculation seems to be this. And guess what? That's perfectly fine as everyone likes something different for you this is it for now.
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