I occasionally masturbate but every time I am about to climax I start having thoughts about how shallow it is. I don't try to have these I just do and I lose it. It's getting kind of annoying and have tried many different masturbating techniques but none have worked. Is there a way to fix this? Thanks.
It's not the technique that's setting you back. It's the mindset. Women are complicated in that we need to be in the zone for orgasm to happen. Mind wanders to the wrong place and bam, it's gone.
Next time, rather than shooting directly for orgasm, try just enjoying the moment. If you need dim lights, music or a bubble bath, do it. You've been aiming for a quickie every time... try a romantic evening with yourself. Think sexy thoughts and take your time. [ NinjaNeer's advice column | Ask NinjaNeer A Question ]
Imperfectionist answered Thursday March 22 2012, 7:29 am: Hahaha. It's actually funny reading this because i wasn't into the whole masturbating thing because it seemed lonely and just kinda wierd. But actually it's a very good stress reliever apparently from what i'm told and it helps you even figure out what makes you climax. AND a even better bonus is a good way to release those hormones that make you feel good. So stop thinking its shallow because if anything most shallow people don't do it because they think they are too good for it. [ Imperfectionist's advice column | Ask Imperfectionist A Question ]
YataiGuy answered Thursday March 22 2012, 2:26 am: Its not shallow, its part of maturing. Your perception of the act of self pleasuring must change before your mind can let go and enjoy it. Its a pressure buildup inside you that you are just releasing. Men have wet dreams as proof the body needs te sexual release and its normal. Go ahead and get yourself off :) its healthy and fun and it sets your body and mind back on course! [ YataiGuy's advice column | Ask YataiGuy A Question ]
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