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I can't orgasm -_-
I am seventeen female I have been with my boyfriend fir two years and we have been having sex for one year already and I can not orgasm I have no idea what I'm searching for like in what it feels like or if I'm even close to ever having one can anyone help me I'm getting disgraced and my boyfriend is getting even more frustrated I don't know what to do anymore please help...
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There are a number of reasons why you are having a problem. First understand if a boy gets an erection the chance of him not cumming is about 1% at your ages. Basically a boy gets hard he can cum through oral, hand or intercourse at almost anytime or any place.
For a girl it is a little more complicated. Unlike a boy a girl cannot just drop her pants and have intercourse. She needs foreplay. She needs to be comfortable and she needs to feel safe in her surroundings. Remove any of these three things and the boy will get off and she probably will not.
What I suggest is that you first find out if you can orgasm. To do so I suggest you go in your bedroom, lock the door, undress and make love to yourself. Call it self-foreplay or masturbation if you want. There is no sin in masturbation it is after all nothing more than foreplay and according to a recent survey 85 percent of us do it. Most religions condone masturbation including the Catholic church.
If you can relax in your own room and bring yourself to orgasm then there's nothing wrong with you. What you will find out is if you are clitoral or vaginal in nature. If you can orgasm by stimulating your clitoris then what you need to do is get your boy friend to stimulate your clitoris during foreplay and to find positions that allow for greater stimulation of your clitoris during intercourse.
You may also find that you need to spend more time on foreplay before actually having intercourse. Teenage boys are always in a rush to get to the act, so you may have to slow him down both before, during fore play and while having intercourse to allow you to catch up to him.
By the way this is fairly normal for people your age. Boys are quick on the trigger so research the web to find ways to slow him down and I think you will find what you are missing as well.
I hope I have helped.
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