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I want to masturbate every time i clean myself
I'm 14/female
Every time I take a shower or just clean "down there" at night, I feel like masturbating. But the problem is I can't in my bed because I sleep with my mom. I don't want to even risk her feeling me move on the bed because then she'll want me to explain (she's very old fashioned and she thinks it isn't right or normal to masturbate) but to avoid all of that, I usually just think about something else when I try to fall asleep or quietly touch but other than that, I wait until the morning when shes at work (^_^) well anyways... I don't want to tell my mom because it's not like I'm doing something wrong, it's just that I really don't want my mom to know about it because then she'll bring it up A LOT in our conversations and I get very uncomfortable, so that is NOT an option. I don't know why this happens.
So my question is; What do you think I should do? and also, Does this happen to anyone else?
Thank you for taking the time to read this!
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It doesn't matter what the space limitation or even culture may be sleeping with parent(s) at 14-years-old isn't right. You need your own room, bed, or place to sleep even if it's on the floor.
It's not right for a person psychologically and on many other levels at that age not to sleep alone. Deal with that situation and having privacy and your own place to sleep as this isn't normal for people your age. No matter how it's been justified.
As far as the other issue goes you're normal and it's your hormones that are raging that causes the constant desire. As long as you know it's okay and you're being private about it you're fine. Unfortunately, for you privacy is a precious commodity. Doing this when alone like you have been doing seems best.
Your mother must have been taught incorrectly that it's wrong if you think she'll have an old-fashioned view. That's unfortunate. The fact stats say 90% of males and 70% of females do it may change her view as is the fact doctors say there's no harm at all in it.
You should try to talk to her frankly about it and point out that health class, doctors, etc etc. explain it's a normal part of development and pretty much universal with your age group. Tell her you're being honest, need privacy, and hope she respects that.
I'm sure she will as most parents suspect or know that their teens are doing this as it's quite prevalent with your age group and almost all males and females do it at some point. Tell her you want to talk about it but after that talk that you don't want to again. Believe me she's just as embarrassed as you are. If she brings it up again just tell her "I have the info I need thanks" and that should tell her you don't need to again.
Also, if you're sleeping next to anyone and especially so a parent I wouldn't try to engage in this as that's wrong too and you wouldn't want to deal with that situation. You need to do this in private be it when alone, in the bathroom, bathing etc as it's a private thing people do.
Definitely, get somewhere else be it a couch or something to sleep on as I'm more concerned about you sleeping with a parent at your age than I am an overall lack of privacy because that's a huge problem.
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