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hey i got fingered and i was wondering why does it feel bad to me?


Question Posted Tuesday January 24 2012, 8:57 pm

why does fingering hurt so bad to me?

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adviceman49 answered Wednesday January 25 2012, 10:33 am:
If by feeling bad you mean that you feel you did something wrong then you probably were not ready to allow this to happen. That you felt pressured into allowing this to happen to you. There is nothing wrong with feeling this way. This is you telling yourself that "Hey I'm not ready for this, I can't handle having someone doing this to me." It is a defense mechanism that we all have telling you that you took a wrong turn and not to allow this to happen again. At least not until you feel better about allowing this to happen or feel ready to do so.


Inherently you did nothing wrong. You can be fingered without getting naked. You cannot get pregnant from being fingered. What can happen is that being finger can feel so good that it leads to full intercourse which you had not planned on and are not prepared for. Then you can get pregnant. Just so you know contrary to what others may tell you , you can get pregnant when having sex for the first time.


Now if you mean by feeling bad something hurts. Then there are a few things that could have happened. He could have scratched you or torn your Hyman. If you are in pain and it does not go away in a day or two you should see a doctor.


If you are over 14 you can see a doctor in total confidence and without mom in the exam room with you. This is by Federal Law so that teenagers can have medical attention for their sexual health without worry. Just tell the doctor or nurse you wish to see the doctor in private and they will take care of having mom wait in the waiting room.


Neither the doctor or anyone in his employ can tell mom or anyone else what went on in the exam room, what you were examined or treated for, without your written permission. Mom can make all the demands and threats she may want. By law she cannot be told.


The Law is called HIPPA and is very specific on what medical privacy teenagers have when it comes to certain health matters.

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OctoberBeat answered Wednesday January 25 2012, 12:55 am:
If you are a virgin and or are not used to vaginal penetration of any kind be it penis, finger or "other," than it's pretty normal for it to hurt. If your not "lubed/turned on" it will hurt a bit.

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babymoby answered Tuesday January 24 2012, 10:01 pm:
Maybe something was displaced when the person did it. It may not hurt you if you do it the way our body would like and able. Try again.
hope I helped some :)

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