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My boyfriend has not been able to reach orgasm and he doesnt know why!
My byfriend and I are in our early 20's, we have been living together for a 1 1/2 yr already. Our sex life has been great but for the past couple days he has not veen able to reach orgasm and we dont know why! Can the flu have anything to do with this??
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This happens to men from time to time. It is not anyone's fault It is a reaction to an external problem that he may or may not even be aware of. Problems or stress at school or work is about 95% of the cause for this problem.
When this happens, if it happens again. Try getting him to relax and see if you can get him to ejaculate by masturbating him (handjob). This usually works if the male can, at these times, simply lay back, relax and think only of his own pleasure. It may take longer than usual for him to cum but it is important to get him off so he knows he can cum.
Once you get him off talk to him. Find out if he is under any undo or unusual pressure. Find out if he is not feeling well. If he he is taking any new medications, another cause of this problem. When you find out the cause you can resolve the issue.
If it is new medication then one of two things. He either needs to give his body time to adjust to it; or he needs to see his doctor. If medication is causing this type of problem most doctors will either change the medication or go to a lower dose.
Something that onsets like this is generally stress related or because of some other condition that can be identified. If it continues for any length of time it might be a good idea to see a Urologist.
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It is NOT his fault. It is Not your fault. No one is to blame for your current sexual situation. Once you take off the pressure and reframe this as part of your relationship (a challenge to be worked on), the stress and frustration associated with "having a problem" will dissipate. There are a lot of reasons why a man may not orgasm and ejaculate in a prescribed way. It may be physical, or it may be drug-related, prescription or non-prescription. It may be because of strong religious injunctions and guilt; the idea of not wanting to surrender to a woman; or, even fear of pregnancy. Or, it may be that you are different for him than other women he's been with, and that the closeness he feels to you makes him more anxious during sex than in the past. The will to orgasm for a male is also 70% mental state as well.
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