i've been freaking out lately and i decided to get an hiv test tomorrow. my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and we've had unprotected sex everyday pretty much since then. he's in the military so he gets all std tests every year or so. he recently had one done and he doesn't have anything. i know understand that it doesn't necessarily mean i'm clear, but if i did have something, wouldn't he have caught it by now? what are the chances of that? thank you for answering.
Having unprotected sex is not smart. Even having sex using a condom does not protect you from all STDs but it is far safer than totally unprotected sex. I think the omission of this information falls under my statement: "freaking out I believe is a fail safe mechanism forcing you to confront something that is causing you to feel unsafe."
Yes being pregnant does give you reason to feel unsafe as you want to protect your baby. I still hope everything is negative. IF there is a problem please listen to your doctors and if you need advice write back. I'm sure people here will look to help you.
Getting tested is the smart thing to do. Your freaking out has to have some reason behind it which you have not shared with us. This freaking out I believe is a fail safe mechanism forcing you to confront something that is causing you to feel unsafe.
gr8fruit answered Friday October 7 2011, 2:08 am: Hey,
If you had something, it doesn't necessarily mean he is clear even though he already had a test. Sometimes people can go months without knowing if they are STD positive or not, cuz there can be absolutely no signs for that long depending on the STD... BUT, don't let that scare you, for if you get tested and it's negative, you should both be ok. If you still feel unsure after that, you can always go back to double check. It is very smart of you to get tested ASAP! It is the only for-sure way to know.
The chances of him catching an STD from you by having sex (if you are positive): very high without the use of a condom. Get tested (you and your partner All The Time), wear a condom and you won't ever have to worry. Remember: It's aleways better to be safe than sorry. Best of luck <3 [ gr8fruit's advice column | Ask gr8fruit A Question ]
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