I'm 19 years old and I started dating a 25 year old man. When we had sex for the first time, he suddenly said he had to go to pee. When he came back he didn't feel like having sex anymore.
Is it really possible that a man can feel an urge to urinate while making love? I'm afraid it was just an exuse because something was not ok. Please help me.
Tulipg17 answered Monday July 3 2006, 8:32 am: No, unless he had to beforehand and was embarassed to say so (maybe he had been drinking heavily), it's impossible for a man to ejactulate and urinate at the same time (or close) because that duct of the urethra shuts off in a way when the penis become erect. More likely, it was an excuse to avoid sex, [ Tulipg17's advice column | Ask Tulipg17 A Question ]
Womet answered Monday July 3 2006, 2:16 am: Well, I can't say I have any expertise in this category, but I'll try my best.
First, it seems entirely possible that your boyfriend could indeed lose his sex drive to a full bladder. Men are naturally set to "urinate mode", obviously; stimulation causes the penis to shift into "ejaculate" mode. I'm speaking from a very basic medical understanding here, but from what I've read that's about how it works.
So, if your boyfriend happened to have a full bladder at the time, he would have gone back to "urinate" mode when he went to the john.
However - I think it's a safe bet that most sane men would happily plan ahead and take care of such things beforehand. Maybe he was going to prematurely ejaculate and wanted to save face, maybe he didn't feel well, who knows?
Regardless, I think you should give this guy the benefit of the doubt for now; assume he had a good, personal reason for his actions. But if he pulls something like that again, I'd say you have the right to find out why.
Alin75 answered Sunday July 2 2006, 1:15 pm: This is really strange. I mean, I suppose it is possible that he felt the urge, but that still does not explain why he didnt feel like having sex anymore afterwards.
Try running this past someone with medical expertise... maybe there is something wrong with him.
Anyway, about the only thing I can contribute in this case is to say that I seriously doubt it is your fault. I simply cant think of what would be so terrible that he would have to make an excuse like that.
If I were you, I would wait and see how the next time turns out. If something weird happens again, then simply talk to him. Just say that you find the situation a bit strange and you were wondering what you could do to make things more "normal".
clarayow answered Sunday July 2 2006, 12:07 pm: What i learnt in Biology, is that a man cannot pee and ejaculate at the same time. He will normally hold back his pee and ejaculate first.
Get to the bottom of the issue before you make jugements. Talk to him and ask him why did he react that way. Give him a chance to explain himself. [ clarayow's advice column | Ask clarayow A Question ]
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