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i dont know them
i am so confused. i have never met my father or any of his family. My mom has told me the story of how they met and has given me a picture, but that just isnt enough. i want to go to sacremento to find my family from his side. should i travel across the country alone? who should i tell? i dont know what to do. where do i belong?
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Heheh...There is a book you need to read. Its about a Japanese American little girl who's father died in a car accident after his parents disowned him for marrying an American. The girl, Kim, is just like you. She acutally does travel to Sacremento [wow...that's weird how the story fits you so well.] by herself. But! Her baby sitter found someone she could stay with while she found her lost family. The book is called Kim/Kimi. I suggest it because it may help you figure everything out.
*Family is family, no matter how little you know*
Abby
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Is your mom open about this? If so, talk to her. If not, talk to your school's counselor or another trusted adult and tell them that you wish to meet your dad's family. It's perfectly normal and understandable that you have the need to meet people who you are after all blood related to. Don't try to go alone without telling anyone, as that would be running away, which I believe is illegal.
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I'm sorry that you feel you don;t belong anywhere, but that's not true. Your mother loves you enough to raise you as a single parent, and believe me that's hard! It seems like your mom is willing to talk about your father, maybe when the time is right you should ask her what she thinks. Although we may not see it at the time, your mother has your best interests at heart. She may know things about your dad that you don;t, but that you should know. EVeryone has a right to discover their roots, I just advice against going it alone. This is a process you will need friends and family to help you through.
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I don't know. How old are you? Are you a minor? If that's the case, then no, don't go alone. Talk to your mom. Tell her how you feel and you desire to get to know your father. Try to get her to realize just how important it is to you and maybe she'll be more than happy to go with you. If for some reason, she won't, try and make contact in other ways FOR NOW. There's nothing wrong with laying a foundation for the two of you so when you DO get the opportunity to go, there will already be something there to build on. Tell him about you, your life, your likes, dislikes and he can do the same. Write a letter, call, anything. The time will come when you can safely go on your own, and the knowledge you gain before then can only strengthen your first meeting. God bless you. Good luck.
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Well first of all, how old are you? I wouldn't travel cross-country alone, looking for someone who isn't expecting me. Contact him first and make plans to meet, because you might get lost.
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1st of all how old r u and second of all tell your mom mybe she will go wiht you
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Well you should first of all ask your mother for permission. Same with your fathers. You shouldnt travel alone though. Go with some family.
-shay :-)
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