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well i used to live with my step mom. she was very abusive in many ways (ie) telling me i was worthless, throwing things at me, forgeting about me all kinds of thing she once made me stand in a corner from sunrise to sunset for 6 days straight but im getting off topic...im now no longer living there i was able to move in with my father who i realized that i wanted to live with after i could see through all the brainwashing done by my mother.... now its been a few months since i last saw her let alone talk to her...yet after all of the pains she has caused me i keep trying to reachout and make contact with her. i called her to wish her a happy new year and merry christmas and she never called me back to even say hi. yet im still filled with a conpulsion to call her once more and try all over agian. each time i do this im thrown into a depression that is hard to get out of. should i keep trying to reach out or should i go about it another way. please help
lost in fl.
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ok so i am guessing that your father split up with your step mother ( adopted mother)and i think that she is mad at your father for this and you are the only remainder of him that she has, so she was taking it out no you. i think that you should try to reach her becuase it is the right thing to do. maybe ask her why she did all those things. well good luck!
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Your stepmom was probably just angry with something going on in her life and has no one else to take it out on but you. I think she probably was embarassed for doing all the stuff she did to you so she doesn't really want to make contact with you. Tell her you are still frightened by her but you are trying to still devolope some sort of relationship so you can start over again. Good Luck
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ok: your step mom is abusive. she doesnt love you or even give a shit about you, so stop wating your time trying to contact her. shes a freak. theres nothing you can do about it. *thank you for your time*~luckiedice~
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If your mother was very abusive to you, then why bother with her? She doesn't deserve you as her son/daughter. Your intentions are good, but if she doesn't care for you, then why try talking to her at all?
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Well, I'm not surprised. What you're exhibiting are classic indications of needing acceptance/approval. It's very common and everyone does it. ESPECIALLY with the parents. After so much abuse, you find yourself craving her acceptance in an effort to tell yourself that you're important or worthy. Without it, it's hard to feel that you are. You may find yourself getting along "well" with others, but eventually, you find yourself trying to get that ONE person to say, "you're ok". I really don't think she's capable of giving you what you need. Her actions toward you stem from her need for control. Not calling you back or responding is her way of maintaining control over you even after you've gone. That's HER problem to deal with. Don't let it continue to be your baggage. You ARE ok without her approval and you don't NEED it. You may WANT it....but you don't NEED it. It may sound simple, but make a list of ten things that you really like about yourself. Whenever you find yourself thinking about her and getting depressed, pull it out, look at it, and remind yourself that SHE is the one missing out on a great person. If you ever want to talk, e mail me.
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do u really live in florida if so contact me at issa88@msn.com
and wut skol u go to if you do live in florida cause i know a few people who have the same situation
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I'm so sorry. That is a horrific thing for anybody, especially a child, to go through.
I hate to say this, but it probably is best to just back away from her. I think you do need some sort of closure, so maybe writing her a letter or leaving her a message saying that you won't be making contact again would be a good idea, or you might find it difficult to ever fully break away from your past.
I think it would be extremely valuable to find a counsellor, who will be able to help you come to terms with your abuse. Maybe one day when you have fully recovered and feel ready you'll be able to face her again, but for now I think it's best to concentrate on your own life and your recovery. I wish you all the best.
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If youve noticed your mother doesnt respond to your calls maybe she doesnt want to talk to you. So this is your step mother right? If so there is no need to keep in contact. You and her have no blood relation. If this is your mother your talking about definetley try back a coupple more times.
-shay :-)
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