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boy trouble
Ok this is going to be a semi-novel but I'll try to make sense. I'm 15 and at the beginning of September I met a guy(whom we'll call Bob).We were friends for a little over a month,and around the middle of October we kissed for the first time;he asked me out very soon afterword.our mutual friends had been bugging Bob to ask me out because it was obvious he liked me.He made the announcement to our them that he asked me out and it was understood that we were a couple.so from that day on, tho we never went anywhere(lack of money and transportation played a major role )but we still managed to kiss at every opportunity(including behind the school at lunch)and took every opportunity we could to be together. One day, we were talking and I mentioned that a friend of mine who(that I have known since childhood was jealous)that we're a couple; he says "well you know, i only see us as friends and plus there's this girl i'm interested in.she lives in maryland" and I go "but i'm here.she's there and I'm here" and he goes "well I've known her since july.plus i helped her through a serious breakup..." and I go "so why did you ask me out?why do you kiss me if we're only friends?" he goes "I don't know" so we weren't talking much for about a week and then suddenly we started up with our old routines. We have been doing this everyday since. My friends tell me that I need to get rid of him. Should I? Thanks…
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Yes, I definitly think you should get rid of him. But don't be too blunt and quick with it. Just kind of avoid him. If he starts following you too much or is not giving you your space, then tell him how you feel. Tell him that you thought you guys were a couple after he annouced that too everyone. Realize this, if he told a CROWD that you two were dating, then obviously he just wants some attention. But if he will only tell you that he thinks of you two as just friends, then he's not a true boyfriend. I know it hurts but you have to get over him. He told you the truth about the girl in Maryland, so tell him the truth about how you feel. I know you're probably afraid of hurting his feelings also...but you have to understand that he hurt yours. And whatever you do, DONT KISS HIM ANYMORE. For all you know, him and this girl in Maryland can already be dating, and if you kiss him...that would be cheating (even if you're not aware of it. So don't kiss him because if that girl from Maryland for some reason ever comes down to visit and finds out...that could lead to more serious trouble. So just avoid him adn if that doesn't work, confront him about it and walk away forever.
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YES!!! He is jsut useing u! Most guys are the same i kno u kno ur prolly like.. o well hes different... Well chances are hes not ! Hes could be just playing u n her at the same time to get sum....DONT BE FOOLED BY HIS CHARM!!! trust me ive met soo mny pricks liek that and im 15 2 and i kno guys PLAY a big role in our lives but there PLENTY of more sweet guys that wnt use u!! get rid of him FAST!!!
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Get rid of him? he sounds like a dick with commitment problems, you tie yourself down with that, and it will be nothing but headaches... he's the type of guy that will probably end up a cheater or player later in life... If he doesn't care about you as much as you do him and whenever something pretty rolls around you become just friens he's not worth it! Why put yourself in that situation... your pretty much like his alternate or his toy... you deserve, and can do better... you have plenty of time, and I know for a fact much better are out there...
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I've been through something similar. My advice to you is to just sit him down and talk to 'Bob' about the problem. Tell him how you really feel, deep inside your heart. Express yourself, and what your heart desires. More importantly, think to yourself if he's "the one" and follow your heart's desire. Maybe what he is saying is just something to get you to not think he likes you anymore. Some guys do that when they're scared of rejection or anything of the sort. So I suggest the both of you sitting down and discussing it through.
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Ditch him.
It really is that simple.
He has shown you no sign that you can trust him.
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Yes....it's that simple. He's using you to fill in for his "like" when she's in another state. He's not worthy of you or your time. Move on and find someone who can give you what you need and be what you desire.
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Yes get rid of him there is no room for two timers. It seems the only reason he asked you out in the first place was because of the deep presure he got from all of your friends.
-shay :-)
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Bob has a messed-up view of what "just friends" do. He's also fallen to the Internet relationship thing. I'd give him his walking papers, he hasn't given you an answer and weird situations like this need answers at the very least.
There are plenty of fish in the sea, and this one's got high levels of pesticides and mercury.
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if he can't answer why he kissed you or perhaps even acted like he loved you, then imagine what else he does not know. you have to ask yourself this. do you want to take a heartbreak because this boy thinks that just because that girl is in another state, it won't hurt you? territorials barriers between states are nothing, but he has definetaly crossed the line. does he love you or not? it seems he doesn't know. do you want to be with someone who can't feel for you as you feel for them? i wouldn't.
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