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Can't we just be friends?
One of my friends at college, let's call him Try, seems to have developed feelings for me. Isn't that great? Well, not really. As much as I'd like to see him happy, I like another guy, Catch for the purposes of this excersize.
I made a post on a messageboard implying I had feelings for a guy. I was referring to Catch. I didn't figure there was any way anyone could interpret it as being anyone BESIDES Catch.
Part two. I sign up for livejournal so it's easier to talk to Try while he's back in Taiwan, halfway across the world. Consequently, I can now see all his private posts on HIS livejournal. Turns out, Try was hoping it was HIM I was talking about. And there were also random outbursts about how it was [female name, let's say Throw] all over again. Now, I know of his history with Throw, and I don't want to be another Throw.
Now I feel like I know stuff I shouldn't, and I feel bad about making Try feel bad, and I still care about Catch more than anything. It's a mess.
RuntimeException! What's a girl to do?
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Don't balme yourself for something that's not your fault. First, you didn't read something you weren't supposed to, it was his live journal, was it not.? Now, if you're looking for a resolution that will leave everyone in the clear about where each and all stand, simply write in your journal, for all to see, WHO it is you like and make no bones about it. Tell it like it is. Don't let your dread of becomeing a "Throw", guilt you into doing something you'll regret later on.
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You should make it clear to Try that you have no feelings whatsoever for him except being best friends. Maybe start talking to Try about Catch -hopefully he would be able to take a hint. Don't let him go on thinking you do have feelings for him or you'll hurt him more. Act fast, Act now!
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You have what seems to be a love triangle. Those suck sometimes, but you got to deal with them. So Im going to help you with that. This other guy that you like doesnt seem to be responding to your feelings, but this guy Try is. Give Try a chance and see what hes all about. A couple dates maybe. If you find that you dont like him as much as you like the other guy tell him,"These dates have been great, but I think we should just be friends". Hope I helped with your problem!
shay :-)
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To be honest even if you wanted to, having a long, long distance relationship would be so hard. What you need to do is let him know, you know he has feelings for you, and as flattering as that is tell him the truth, your interested in someone else, let him know you’re sorry, and he's a great person and friend, tell him there is someone out there that will make his world complete, you just don't feel it's you, and that you hope to be a friend to him, and you love him as friends love each other, but you don't see your feelings for him changing anytime soon... It will be hard he will feel bad and he might try and haggle with you to give him a chance or not, it depends on him. You just need to be strong and honest, consider his feelings, and do what you can to be clear to him it won't work out... Good luck I know from experience this is never easy but you and him both can move on once its done, why make him live with a false hope its not fair to him or you...
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well it seems he really likes you and u need to tell him u just want to be friends and tell him there is someone you need right now maybe his turnwill come up soon
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