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Help with love
Okay, there's this guy who I am madly in love with. I think of him 24/7, I doodle his name all over my school work, and I dream about him at night. But, as far as I know, he has no idea that I like him. Now he's got a girlfriend. I have no clue what to do. I mean, just because he has a girlfriend, doesn't mean that I can just turn off my feelings like they never existed. I mean, I cry everytime I see him and his girlfriend together. And I see him ALL the time. Everyday in class, weekends, summer. It's crazy. I just don't know what to do. But my problem is that I don't know how to tell him that I love him, because I'm positive that he doesn't feel the same way. All of my friends say I should move on...but it's just so hard. Thanks in advance for any advice you can offer.
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I had htis problem b4 too. . I was sooo sad. . . You will just have to wait untill he is single again. . But you might not want to wait. . so keep feelin this feleing you feel 4 him but go guy searchin. . !!!
I <3 Shawn. . . Peace Out
BrItTaNy
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Heya chica!
ok, i have the SAME EXACT situation, except mine doesn't have a gf, but ne wayz, i know it's hard, but ya just have to pull him aside or get one of his friends to tell him (one that u trust), give him a letter, stick one in his locker, do SOMETHING, and either way, let him know that u like him a LOT and hopefully he'll feel the same way, but if he doesn't then so what? it's not the end of the world and there r PLENTY of other guys out there, ok? so just keep ya chin up and breathe in and out and let him know, lol, well, hope it goes well! check out my site! www.goodcharlotte4life.4t.com
take care and smile! and keep life sweet!
Mad Love,
Tina
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Yes, it IS hard. But you know it's the right thing to do. I would question howvere, why you STILL feel the need to tell him that you love him when you KNOW he's with another person. Do you think that it will miraculously make him leave her and come to you or something of the sort? You say you're positive that he doesn't feel the same way. That would lead me to deduce that you also know that nothing can come of this. So once again, what are you hoping to attain by holding on? Don't you feel the logical step would be to move on and find someone that you feel could and WOULD give to you what you're able to give to them? It's going to be hard with him being the " one that got away" believe me, I know. I STILL have one in my life to this date. But, after I accepted the fact that we never would be more than friends, I saw how much of a good freind I could be, and believe it or not, that's going to be worth a lot more in the long run.
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First off that is NOT love... and don't mistake it for that. What you have is known as infatuation, and it's not bad, it’s entirely normal... crushes are generally based on infatuations, many relationships start that way... Love is when you know that person would trust them with your life and while you understand your differences and acknowledge they exist you can accept then quarks and all... True love usually takes a lot of talking and time (a few months at least) to developed... As for your situation many people have been there, and your friends are right. It's not healthy to become nearly obsessed and cry over a guy that you probably barely know... what you need to do is get out and look at the selection of single guys roaming the streets... get your mind off him and understand that if it is meant to be then when the time comes that he breaks up with his girlfriend then you will be single and can be together... but honestly DON'T wait for him, I did that and it was a waist of good time, its not worth it. You can't change your feelings just try and get your mind off them.
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You need to move on. Don't be obsessive over him. He has a grilfriend and you need to find someone who is single and you can get to know. It'll be hard, but you're going to have to try.
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You'll probably never have him. Never never never. That said, how long do relationships at your school last? You can't make him love you if he doesn't have any mental stimuli about you whatsoever. Guys can't pick stuff out of the air. If you want to talk to him, pick a neutral topic. His girlfriend will be gone in 3 months tops, so you can just chat it up then. Otherwise, honestly, there is nothing you can do, and in 2 or 3 years you'll think you were an idiot for spending so many calories on a guy who doesn't even have a clue.
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Of couse you cant just pick up and move! Its very hard to get over strong emotions. Its okay to just keep feeling the way you do. You dont have to express yourself to him either. Just pretend he doesnt have a girlfriend. Its not like he'll stay with her forever. And if he does (witch is VERY unlikley) theres probably many other guys just like him out in the big sea!
-shay :-)
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