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why cant girls ask boys out?


Question Posted Wednesday December 3 2003, 4:50 pm

Why do boys have ask girls out and why cant girls ask boys out. It make it so much more complicated for the boys. And the boys will never have a girlfriend if they are to shy to ask out the girl they like.

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Siren_Cytherea answered Monday May 10 2010, 8:41 am:
Who said girls can't ask boys out?

My boyfriend and I are together because I said, straight up, "I really like you, and I'd really like to give us a shot." I mean, we're in a slightly different situation because we dated last year, and I broke up with him, so if anything was gonna happen, I kinda had to say something, but still.

It's perfectly fine for girls to ask guys out in this day and age. It often doesn't happen because girls are terrified of rejection and, in the past, it WAS taboo for girls to ask guys out. So we girls tend to wait for the guy to make the first move. Besides, that way if we're too chicken and we know the guy likes us, it's all on them to make it happen. It takes the ball out of our court and makes things easier for us.

What we often forget is that guys are just as afraid of rejection as we are. Some girls are comfortable nowadays making the first move, and some just aren't. I made the first move to kiss the guy I'm currently seeing, but I won't pretend that my heart wasn't pounding and I wasn't nervous as hell. Sometimes that rush of adrenaline just makes it better. :)

I personally look for signs that the guy likes me before I make any kind of move. I'll, for example, say or do something that could be considered flirtatious. If he responds in kind, that's a good sign he likes me. If he doesn't respond, or the flirtatious mood flops, that's a good sign he isn't into me. Body language is KEY for this.

Some girls are comfy being a little aggressive, and some aren't. Both are just fine. Sometimes you gotta step out of your comfort zone just a little bit - relationships are all about taking risks.

Siren

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smileydino answered Saturday May 8 2010, 11:59 pm:
Even though every guy I have ever dated has asked me out, I know plenty of people who have had girls ask them out first. I don't think it really matters and it doesn't.

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nachoxqween answered Tuesday January 6 2004, 7:18 pm:
Girls can ask out guys. My friends have done it before.

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life-love answered Sunday December 7 2003, 12:54 am:
You are absolutly correct not only guys have to do the asking. We're in the 21fst century!!!!!

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musicismyworld answered Saturday December 6 2003, 7:29 pm:
girls can ask guys out it is perfectly ok to but sometimes if u really like the person u should take a shot at it no matter how shy u r that the only way anything will ever get done

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brown_eyed_girl answered Thursday December 4 2003, 10:28 pm:
the girl needs to know that the guy really likes her which means that he is willing to ask her out. if the guy has that hard of a time he should concider help from his friends or her friends.

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OneMan answered Thursday December 4 2003, 5:34 pm:
Uhhhh 2003. Girls DO ask. Plug in!

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ScaperJess answered Thursday December 4 2003, 3:34 pm:
Well actually in today’s modern society girls are starting to ask guys out... more and more... so don't worry too much, the old gender role is on its way outta there!!! However shy guys still need to get guts to at least flirt with the girls so they know your interested and ask them out... so either way them cute shy boys need to slap on a pair and go for it... just as shy girls do ;)

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dragonrider answered Wednesday December 3 2003, 8:43 pm:
personally i agree but i think us girls could ask guys out but it is that seriotype (didnt spell rite hehe) that guys have to ask the girl out that keeps us from doing it even though some of us still do

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metawidget answered Wednesday December 3 2003, 7:10 pm:
It's tradition.

If you're a boy, well, suck it in and ask, or run the risk of only going out with non-traditional girls (that's not so bad in itself...).

If you're a girl, you don't curtsey very often, right (or if you do, is it laden with irony)? Have you worn a bonnet on Easter recently? Worn light-coloured pants after labour day? Worn pants? You can break traditions as you see fit (and some non-proactive boy may well thank you for it)!

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spacefem answered Wednesday December 3 2003, 6:43 pm:
Honey, get into this century. If a woman wants something, she should go for it... we don't wait for men to read our minds anymore, we ask them out!

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babiegirl answered Wednesday December 3 2003, 6:14 pm:
they dont have to ask girls out. you can do it.you are an independent woman. you dont need a boy to make the first move. you do it!
GIRLPOWER!
-Babiegirl

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Britt answered Wednesday December 3 2003, 5:20 pm:
I really dont know... i wonder the same thing

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miSScxoxo821 answered Wednesday December 3 2003, 5:15 pm:
I think the reason why boys have to ask girls out instead of the other way around is because it's all part of being a gentlemen. And girls are more outgoing than guys I think, and for a guy to ask a girl out is showing true affection.
Sincerely,
MiSSc

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shay*shay answered Wednesday December 3 2003, 5:13 pm:
I think you are right, but that is just the way it is. Just like guys usually propose and not girls. Girls can ask guys out its not like its a law it would just be sort of weird, but that is also why they have satihawkins dances(or however you spell it). So start a trend ask a guy out!

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