I've known this boy since the 4th grade. We are two years apart. We were together for 2 years. He was normal but now he is a total freak and disaster! Recently he's been stalking me, and my friends. Like he'll talk to my friends and tell them lies that I don't like. And he almost punched me and grabbed my arm so hard it had red marks on it. Durring our relationship he called me a slut for going to a dance with one of my good friends which is now my boyfriend. But yet, durring our relationship, on his b-day he played spin the bottle with all of my friends and kissed all of them, and my best friend, and my best friends mom. So, all together he's cheated on me, abused me, and stalked me, lied to me, used me, and ruined my life and my dignity. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Tears =(
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? OneMan answered Thursday December 4 2003, 5:48 pm: What planet do boyfriends actually kiss their best friends' moms during spin the bottle? Sheesh!
Now, to answer your question:
Let's role-play. I am your best friend. One you love more than just about anything. I come to you, in tears, depressed, heart-broken and disgusted. You ask what's wrong and I say,"all together he's cheated on me, abused me, and stalked me, lied to me, used me, and ruined my life and my dignity. What should I do?"
your answer to ME ( and yourself ) is? [ OneMan's advice column | Ask OneMan A Question ]
AskAshley answered Wednesday December 3 2003, 12:26 am: Don't be discouraged for joy does come i nthe morning,dry your tears.Obviously he has been abusive so if you want it to stop give him a taste of his own medicine show him up in front of alot of ppl make sure that he does something harmful in front of a crowd like at skool so that ur b/f or dearest friends can beat him to a pulp.Or if u r a fraid u can also report him so that the foolishness can stop ONCE AND FOR ALL.
Love,
Askashley [ AskAshley's advice column | Ask AskAshley A Question ]
ScaperJess answered Tuesday December 2 2003, 9:29 pm: Seriously get far away from him, court order is necessary, he is a loser and not worth your time. He'll probably grow up a wife beater... real scum of the earth... move on get away from him, be happy and know you are non of the mean things he's told you, you deserve better... and you know what? be glad you got out of that relationship... Good Luck :) [ ScaperJess's advice column | Ask ScaperJess A Question ]
babiegirl answered Tuesday December 2 2003, 9:04 pm: will you should go to your parents AND the cops. you should stay as far as possible frome him. if he bothers you again then you do what ever it takes to get him away from you.nothing is more important then you!
dragonrider answered Tuesday December 2 2003, 8:20 pm: dear tears
i think you need to tell some one bout this becuase this happened to my sister it went so far a that she went to the police and it is happening the same way your is only she didnt go out with him i would tell soem one and fast you never no what he might do asspecialy since he is physicly hurting you my best regards hope everything turns out ok [ dragonrider's advice column | Ask dragonrider A Question ]
metawidget answered Tuesday December 2 2003, 8:18 pm: To borrow from a certain site familiar to many here:
:boot: :kerosene: :fire:
Seriously, talk to an adult, either a parent or someone at school about the punching and grabbing stuff. You shouldn't have to put up with violence.
shay*shay answered Tuesday December 2 2003, 7:54 pm: dear Tears
I think this former boyfriend of yours is definetly jealous of you and your new boyfriend.Even though he did many mean things to you, you shouldnt have gone to the dance with someone else. Two wrongs dont make a right. Right now its not about feeings. Tell him you are sick and tired of his beavior and that he should grow up. Good Luck! shay [ shay*shay's advice column | Ask shay*shay A Question ]
DearBritney answered Tuesday December 2 2003, 3:54 pm: Dear Tears,
This boy is bad news. You need to talk to an adult immediatly. You said that he even did this to your best friend's mom? What did she say? Make sure that you talk to a responsible adult, who is willing to report this guy or at least talk to him before things get way out of hand...
...And always remember- Never let a guy bring tears to your eyes.
Turc answered Tuesday December 2 2003, 3:41 pm: Wait, this guy kissed your best friend's MOM? Now that is weird. Totally weird.
Anyway, this guy DOES sound like an abusive creep and you don't deserve to be treated that way. If his maltreatment continues or you are feeling any repercussions of his treatment, I urge you to seek help from any trusted adult, like a teacher, your parents, a clergyperson, or a guidance counselor. You don't deserve to be treated like crap... Stand up to this whacko. [ Turc's advice column | Ask Turc A Question ]
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