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AAAAH! There's two of them!!!
Ok, so I've liked this guy for a while now and we're pretty good friends. The thing is though, he's not really looking for a girlfriend right now since he just broke up w/ a serious one. I think I love him and I would wait for him to be ready if I had to. But then there's this other guy... I'm almost 16 (the first guy's 17) and this guy's 20. My parents are kind of sketched out about his age and so am I. I met him at the mall a few days ago and we exchanged phone #'s (not something I do very often). He called me and says he wants to get together. I don't really feel too comfortable around this guy, and I barely know him. Also, if I get into something with this guy, what about the first one? Do i just forget about him? I'm really confused right now. I don't think the guy's a psycho but I don't know for sure. The first one is basically all that I've been looking for.
Sorry for the length, but I really need some help
Thanks a bunch!! ~Pom
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This one's simple. The first guy knows you like him. If he says he's not ready for a relationship, then don't get into one with him. He knows that's his excuse to get "what he wants" and not have to commit to you. He can have you AND other women. If you EVER question him about it, he'll say, " Well, we're not boyfriend/girlfriend, so what's the deal?" and there's nothing you can say. Old trick....VERY old trick.
Two, the 20 year old. Hell.....he's 20 YEARS OLD!!! I don't care what you say, love. ANY 20 year old willing to date a minor is NOT a good guy. I know it's flattering, but, thta's not a good idea. Find someone who can/ and WILL give you what YOU need. Has either of them EVER asked you that? Think about it. Let me know.
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Pom, It already sounds that you are a little nervous of dating a 20 year old. He may be a little to old for you, and may be looking for something else. Sounds like guy number 1 sounds good for you, he's your age, and wasn't some random guy you've met at the mall. Sounds like you have already figured this one out on your own. Stay safe, and stick with your own age right now. Don't hesitate to ask me anymore questions. lilshort3y1@yahoo.com
-Kachiri*
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Run. Do not hang out with Mr. 20. You can when you get a little older, but I did. And I was sorry. We shared some of the same things, but he was ready to get married (and other annoying bad things) and I wasn't.
Your other friend may come around after a month or so depending on how long the relationship was.
There are nice guys your age, you just need to find them.
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well if you are unconfertable with the age difference between you and guy#2 then tell him you want to get to know him(sort of like friends) and dont ever wait for a guy to ask you out on a date. if your feelings are strong about guy#1 then tell him. the worst thing that can happen is he might say he is not ready. you 2 (guy#1 and you) will always have the friendship to back up to. also you would feel more confortable with guy#1 because yoy know eachother.
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i dont think that you should meet this second guy becuase one you dont feel comfortable around him and 2 you dont really no him i would if i were you just talk to him on the phone and online or just not talk to him at all if he makes you feel really uncomforable
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