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Boys are so damn confusing.
Alright, so I finally got this serious boyfriend. But, of course after awhile, I forgot how lucky I was to have him,(yes I was lucky, he's wonderful, despite his flaws) and I started flipping out about the most stupid stuff ever. And he couldnt' take it anymore and dumped me. He was so sweet about it, (well as sweet as you can get dumping a person) he even cried. He told me that he cried every time we fought. And I was completely shocked. He kept how he felt from me because he didnt' want me to be upset. And I went psycho trying to get him back, but it just pushed him further away from me. And he blocked me on AIM and told me never to talk to him again. And now he has this new girlfriend. And he says he's really happy. But, yet I mentioned a guy in my online journal, and he sort of went on and on about it in his journal, indirectly. All of my friends think he wrote what he wrote because he read mine and got jealous. He still glances at me in school, to. But, when he notices one of my friends noticing him looking, he hurries and turns his head. I mean, he seems to really like her, but yet it seems like he has feelings still for me. I don't talk to him..well, hardly ever. I don't know what to do. I am so lost. Someone, please please please help me. I still love him, and its been months, and it still hurts. I have matured. And I realized what I lost...I just want him to know that, and I want him back. Sigh. -Amanda
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Well you seem to have a situation. First off in ever single relationship you need to have communication, if he can't tell you his feelings and you seem to wait until your problems become a full out argument before you express them you are going to have major problems, and there is low probability that your relationship will work out, as you found out... You need to move on from this relationship. Feelings still being there is inevitable, it sounded like you really cared for each other, but best thing you can do is try and understand. He looks at you and thinks about what might have been, or is reminded about what use to be. You need to let him go. If you can renew your friendship, do it with time, fist thought you must fix the problem at hand... You need to realize and understand what makes a good and bad relationship. It's of utmost importance to trust your significant other; if you can't then your relationship is not healthy... You also need to address issues between you two when they first rear their ugly head before it becomes bad enough to start an argument. You also need to realize that you are not the only thing in this person's life, that you are only a part and there for their world should not revolve around yours, you need to work together, not be controlling. You need to not have unreasonable expectations, this person is who they are, and you should love them for that not try and change it. You will probably not get him back, don't expect him to come running to you, and don’t chase him down, look for someone else you will both be happier in the end...
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You, being blocked and asked not to talk to him, have to move on and tend to the rest of life until he does or says something which unambiguously invites you back into talking distance.
It may be hard, but it's also honourable _and_ it won't smack of desperation. That and you'll probably experience all sorts of worthwhile stuff basically undistracted by the whole boy thing, whether it's school, creativity, work, other friends or whatever.
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