Question Posted Saturday November 15 2003, 12:09 pm
i have a friend i trust with my life. or at least i DID. it turns out he doesn't trust me one bit. i even called him my older brother! i can't seem to get over it and i am really pissed off. he says he's sorry, but i don't know what's true anymore. how do i know if he's truthful to me as i used to be to him?
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship? downwithhydrogen answered Sunday November 16 2003, 12:49 am: When you lose trust in a person, it's also losing faith in a person. There's no quantifier to be able to tell if a person is trustworthy. I have a friend that I also trust with my life (I call him the brother I never got in real life), and he also managed to break my trust. On a couple of occasions. I choose to trust him now because I know when he apologizes that he's sincere.
So the question for you is- Do you believe he was sincere?
Two cases to examine:
Case One: He's sincere. You decide never to trust him again. Now you've just lost the friendship of the person you called a brother. However, if he was sincere, you give it another try, and likely end up better friends because of it.
Case Two: He's not sincere. You decide to trust him. It comes back and bites you again. You (hypothetically) decide not to trust him again.
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