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All of my freinds have guys that like them and their all going out and everything. As far as I know nobody likes me. How can I find out if anyone does? Or how can I get somone to like me. Its verry annoying when all of my freinds are always going out and I'm always at home.
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Maybe you should just go with the flow, as much as that takes time and it can get really annoying at times. If you're still in your teens, then I don't think there is anything to worry about because you still got your whole life ahead of you. If you don't want to wait the only way you're gonna meet somebody is if you go out to the movies anyway, besides saying at home all of the time, and maybe approach somebody and ask them out if you feel comfortable.
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I went through this phase my sophomore year of high school, when my best friend had a couple of boyfriends and I remained 100% single. I had just come out of a bad experience with a guy, and I just wanted a nice guy to chill and do stuff with. I talked myself into liking this one guy (who, the next two years would be my stand partner in orchestra), but it was NOT the best idea. a) As I got to know him, it became apparent we would drive each other insane. b) He had this tendency to be an arrogant little prick, which took me a few months to discover.
You can go ahead and start scoping guys out, but save yourself some heartbreak and get to know them first.
Guys can be really good friends. Dating isn't even really important until you're at college, and even there it's not paramount (after all, you're paying out your ears to be learning). So don't feel like you have to be dating now.
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If you try to get someone to like you, then its not you they like, its the fake person you have created for them and that's not solving the problem. Come to that, what is the problem? That you aren't dating? Come on now, you do NOT need boys (or girls) asking you out to be happy. Really, I'm sure you're better than that! If its REALLY REALLY REALLY important to you (and it shouldnt be but if it is) then just ask one of your friends to set you up and have a double date. Thats my advice, either forget it or take the initiative. You should probably just forget it.
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The only way you can get people to like you is to be yourself. You can't force someone to like you, and it's also incredibly hard to figure out when someone does-- it's all risk and chance. If you reek desperation (ie, "I NEED A BOYFRIEND NOW"), no guy is going to want to go out with you anyway. To some girls, boyfriends come a dime a dozen. I have plenty of friends that have had a gazillion boyfriends already. As for me, it's my junior year of high school, and I've had two meaningful boyfriends. And you know what? I'm fine with that. Because I'd rather have two meaningful relationships than eighty one week "I liked you yesterday but today I like her" relationships.
It may be annoying when all of your friends are always going out and you're "stuck at home"- so it may be a good idea to make some new friends. If your girls don't learn that it's not worth losing a friendship over a guy, they aren't worth keeping around anyway.
Good luck, and save desperately wanting a relationship for a guy that really means something to you. :)
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I know how you feel. It is not a particularly pleasant feeling but don't let it stress you and you should be fine.
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Go to www.spacefem.com and do the boyfriend quiz (in the left-hand sidebar, down a bit).
That being said, with the pressure off, people are tricky to read... but interacting with them and listening carefully while you do so is a good start. You should get a feel for it after a few wrong guesses!
The best way to wind up with a guy seems to be to be busy living a happy life, then they'll just kind of turn up. Doing stuff you like that brings people together, like drama, yearbook or mixed sports like cross-country running, won't hurt either.
Whatever you do, enjoy the friendships and cameraderie and activities themselves while you're there. It's not like you have some limited reserve of potential happiness or anything.
Don't forget the quiz!
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