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A call from the past
I find mself very confused about this problem and may not be able to listen to myself as to the true answer.
Forgive me in advance for the length of this question.
Last year I started having recurring dreams about a woman I knew 15 years ago. She was married and we had a platonic relationship that bordered on romantic. I broke it off after 2 long years due to frustration. After the series of dreams, I wrote to her. My first attempt got no response. In my second attempt, I was a bit more open with my feelings. I received a phone message from her saying that her life was busy but she would get back to me. I did some research and found out that she has been divorced for quite some time but she had been seeing someone for about a year. I have not heard from her since the phone call (many months ago). Obviously, I felt a great deal for her but I do not want to hold on to unrequited feelings. I am still wondering why she said she would get back to me? She could have easily told me to go away or ignored me altogether. My question is simply... Will she ever contact me in a more meaningful fashion?
Thanks in advance,
Joseph
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Dear Joseph,
hmmmmmmmmmmm that is a hard question...
i really dont know! if she said she would get back to you HOPEFULLY she will. How reliable was she in the past?? Maybe you could try to contact her again and tell her how you really feel about her!!! anyway...
hope that helps...
BRitt
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I understand being attracted to someone but 'researching' her life and you're not directly involved; hmmmm...I would watch that. It sorta borders on 'stalking' if you know what I mean.
But getting back to your question, I don't think you're being fair to yourself holding out for this woman who does not seem very interested in you in the least. Perhaps she said "She would get back to you", because she didn't want to seem like a total bitch on the phone. If she hasn't by now...I would move on.
It really not as tough as it sounds. Outline the qualities in her that you found so attractive and try to notice those same qualities in the women that come into your social circles. The sooner you get started the sooner you can forget about this crush from the past!
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My best guess is no, not after a few months and a couple of opportunities. Stranger things have happened, but they don't happen reliably.
Then again, you could try cross-posting this as a psychic reading question.
But seriously, people from the past do drift out of the woodwork sometimes, but you can't rely on any given person returning at any given time.
Realize that if someone else from your distant-ish past turned up on your answering machine, the range of possible reactions goes from creeped-out to overjoyed, with a whole bunch of complicated factors determining what it is.
Planning and foresight have limited value in situations like this: go on living as usual and something will happen or it won't.
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