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so i like this guy. teh only problm is that he is an atheist and i am a christian. but we talk all the time n he makes me laugh. i cant explain it we just click. will the whole religion thing be a bg deal?
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No! Religion doesn't matter...but if things with you two get too complicated I'd try just being friends again and just simply back out of the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship if you too start to go out.
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well. there's this boy at my church and his parents are like that. his mother is a christian and his father an atheist. sometimes things get a bit rough and such and he gets kinda frusterated with his parents, but everything works out. we were told to pray for him, hoping to lead him to God. this might be just the guy you're looking for all your life and things may just work out.... leading into getting married!!! ahhhh!!!! but whatever you do, do NOT let your christianity go.
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if you're going to wait for a guy who has everything in common with you, you're going to be waiting a long time!! if you like the guy, go for it!! besides, what's a relationship (of any kind) without a bit of conflict now and then?! btw, i think it's kewlie that you are friends first!! good luck!!
p.s. don't change for nobody!!
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no, not really. Unless you try to force it down his throat things should A'-Okay
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It really depends on how strong you are about your beliefs and how "Christian" you are. If you feel very strongly, no doubt in your mind, by the bible, every Sunday type then you will eventually conflict, and my guess is it would be a relationship murdering conflict. If your religion is an important part of you, he might have a hard time respecting that, likewise your morals could be very different and no matter what you think, common beliefs are very important to the well being of a relationship. If your a "I got to church now and then, celebrate religious holidays more so for family, believe but really don't understand, and have beliefs that contradict your religion, then it probably won't matter much. You might have disputes over religion, but it could work... religion does matter, but don't let that stop you, if you like the guy GO FOR IT!! I can be a learning experience and you never know. You could end up really having a good time whether or whether not it weathers ;)
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I tend to think that if you don't share the same faith, that's a pretty basic thing to share. And if you can't share that, in the end, what do you have? Even my roommate agrees with me on this point, and she's not a Christian. You should definitely stick to your own faith for dating relationships. This isn't to say you can't be friends, in fact, I strongly encourage the friendship!
But yes, the religion should be a big deal for you. Maybe not for him, but it should be for you. I can't even imagine dating someone who doesn't believe in any of the same things I do. It can be the cause of much strife- like I recall being offended when one of my guy friends blew off my Bible study as unimportant (since I wouldn't skip it to go to a concert with him and his friends). Honestly, you'll be happier in the long run if you two are just friends.
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There's a Bible passage about uneven hitching about which a big deal was made in my churchgoing days. Now, as an atheist, I still take it seriously, as there can be some real differences in views of reality, priorities and approaches to truth and relationships.
If he's a Dawkins-thumping atheist and you're a Christian of some commitment... be prepared for some difficult questions. If you're asking about religious differences with an atheist then chances are Christianity is a pretty big part of how you see the world. How will you feel about going separate ways for church stuff? How will you reconcile any differences on dos and don'ts of dating? Are you OK with him staying atheist, or will you try to change him? Will he erode your faith and good Christian habits?
There are plenty of happy mixed-faith couples out there, and they make it work, but be aware of the potential difficulties. I tend to be reluctant to enter a relationship with someone whose faith is drastically present, but if both of you are OK with the other, maybe things will work out. It's not like neither of you can break it off if it turns out to be a bad idea.
Sorry to be a wet blanket, but there's my two cents.
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