I'm not really a social person, even though I do like having friends. The problem is that sometimes they call me up and I just don't feel like going out, and they get all insulted about the fact that I'd rather curl up with a book than party with them. I have a lot more "me" time than the average person, and I like it that way, but they don't get it. I've lied to them about other stuff going on but feel bad about that. How can I tell them I'm not in a going out mood without hurting their feelings?
ariadne127 answered Sunday October 26 2003, 6:13 pm: I used to feel like that when I was in middle/high school. Whenever I felt like saying no would hurt somebody's feelings, I'd say my dad wanted me to stay in that day, or do some chores, or focus on my grades. Even better is when you can get your parents in on it, and have your friend hear your parents say they want you home, and you say "come on dad, please?"
The thing about turning people down for plans most of the time is that eventually they're going to stop calling. Definitly you can say no once in a while, if you make a compromise more often than not (going out during the day but home early, making plans for the day after) the invitations will keep coming in. [ ariadne127's advice column | Ask ariadne127 A Question ]
KiWiKiSsEs answered Sunday October 26 2003, 5:02 pm: ok just tell them how you feel about this like say "I don't really feel like going out to night because i've had a bad day or i wanna finish a book" or anything like that. and maybe they will understand. [ KiWiKiSsEs's advice column | Ask KiWiKiSsEs A Question ]
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