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Question Posted Saturday October 25 2003, 4:48 pm

A friend of mine is getting married in a few months, and all she talks about is her freaking wedding. She's so annoying I just want to smack her. Some of our other friends feel the same way, others are all into this wanting to help plan and decorate and buy pretty white crap that I can't get excited about at all, because I'm just not a pretty white crap kinda girl.

She used to be so cool and normal, we'd talk about what was going on in the world, fun weekend activities, etc. Now she's wedding 24/7. What's wrong with her? How do I shake her out of cinderella land and get my friend back?


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Turc answered Sunday October 26 2003, 1:24 pm:
Hopefully, this is a once in a lifetime thing for your friend. This will be the only time in her life she'll get to be excited about the tiniest details of the "best day of her life"-- so let her be excited. Let her have her fun until the wedding, and then I can almost guarantee that the "pretty white crap" stuff will end. Let it take its course, and try to understand, since you claim to be such a good friend. After the wedding everything will be back to normal.

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ESP206 answered Sunday October 26 2003, 1:09 pm:
She's just excited. Maybe over excited, but this is a really big thing for her. I'm not saying you have to help her with buying pretty white crap, but just try and put up with her. If it gets to be too much, then just ignore it, or propose to just have a weekend at some spa and just tell her she needs to just chill for a few days. No harm in that, right?

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MissNiceness answered Sunday October 26 2003, 11:19 am:
Try to be a tad bit more understanding; I mean, really! A wedding is (suppossed to be) a once in a lifetime thing. Of COURSE she's excited, of COURSE it's all she talks about. It's healthy, it's normal, it's the way people are.

So relax, after she walks down the aisle, it may get better, it may not. Maybe then she'll start talking about married life and babies all the time. Oh, and the same thing happens when they get pregnant too; they start talking about aching breasts and water retention incessantly.

Sad to say, but people (and their priorities) change as we get older and move throughout certain stages in our life. Some people change more than others. There's really nothing you can do about it because everyone handles it differently. True friends understand that while their level of day to day interaction and emotional exchange my increase or decrease over time, they will always be there for each other no matter what - and that is what's really important anyway.

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KiWiKiSsEs answered Sunday October 26 2003, 11:17 am:
lol i had the same problem once with one of my friend but it was a lil different anways you should confront her about it and say, "ok i understand your excited about getting married but can you please take a chill pill and not talk about it so much?" lol or somthign like that.

i hope this helps

=^..^= ~Pamie~

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Kira_Valoka answered Sunday October 26 2003, 10:56 am:
She's just excited. The "pretty white crap" is SUPPOSED to mean "virgin, pure and white". kinda stupid, actually, a quote from one of my favorite British comedies: "It means I'm a virgin, pure and white...Stupid male fantasy. Sleep in a different room, Tom." <--Diana is funny :)
anyways, if i get married, I'm gonna wear Green.
Tell her that you want to do something besides the wedding for a weekend. Sure, the wedding won't do itself, but unless the wedding is a week away, then no wonder she's obsessed, but otherwise she should take a break.

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elmo answered Saturday October 25 2003, 8:07 pm:
Well talk to your friend about the problems you're having, but if it were me, I'd just suck it up because it is her wedding. Besides in a few months you'll have your friend back!

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