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I moved away from to go to college, but most of my friends stayed in our hometown to either take community college courses or just slack off and not do much of anything. Now it seems like every weekend they guilt me about not coming home. I can come home some weekends, yeah, but honestly I'm making some new friends here that I like to party with too and don't really want to go home more than once a month. My high school friends are just like, "But it's so-and-so's annual such-and-such party! You've never missed this! are you too good for us now or something?"
Am I a bad person for neglecting my old friends? Should I make more of an effort to go home and salvage these relationships? I want to stay friends, but sometimes I wish phonecalls were enough.
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Do not let them feel bad about yourself,because you're at college and their not. You shouldn't have to come home every weekend to see old friends, they should be able to accept that you're away. I think it's good that you are making new friends and having a good time at college.
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Unfortunately this is a very well known dance. Come college, people start to go there separate ways, most of the people you know in high school, even your closest friends begin to fade into history. It has been said many times by many people, don't go home every weekend, your missing out, and you'll regret it in the long run. You can do what you can to keep in contact with your old friends if you wish, but you’re not a bad person for moving on and taking the next step in your life.
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It's your own life! Don't let your friends run it. If they're really your friends and you sit down and explain the situation ("I'm just trying to meet some new people, I'm not sick of you or anything, I just want to see what else is out there at the same time"), I'm sure they'll understand. If they don't, then they're not really your friends. Just make sure you actually stay in touch with them.
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You're not a bad person. You've moved on and there is nothing wrong with that. If your high school friends are your real friends, they should understand that you have new friends and your life doesn't revolve around your hometown any more. Don't stop visiting them, but don't feel obliged to see them every weekend.
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not a bad person at all! dont let them make you feel bad for wanting to move on with your life. you have other friends you like to spend time with, and theres nothing wrong with that. just try to keep in touch with them other ways, and see them when you DO come home whenever you want. its your life, not theirs.
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Life goes on. I'm only in grade eight but one of my close friends is now going to a different school in order to take fine arts. We don't see each other much but wen we do, everyone's always happy to see her and no one complains to her about never seeing us being busy with new friends. Your friends should be glad that you're able and willing to come home once a month and shouldn't waste their time with you guilting you. Tell them that.
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