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dump him or keep him
I have been divorced for almost a year, and have been seeing a guy from work for almost a year, but used to he would always want to be around me, touch me etc., now i almost have to force him to do anything. he says he still has the same feelings for me and the thing is that when we get into an arguement he always tells me to shut up, that I am f-ing stupid, or go to He@@. He always opologizes and I know he has had a really rough childhood, both parents dying, his dad shot his mom right in front of him and his grandad used to beat him, I can deal with thie emotional rollercoaster with him anymmore, should i try to work it out or kick him out?????
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I understand the part with his rough child hood but i mean he's amn now and that was the past and theres no sense on staying with him if he's like that because if he keeps doing that he may want to hurt you but it's hard to tell. so do what feels right.
I hope this helps
=^..^= ~Pamie~
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Oh wait, let me get out my violin here. Ok, so what gives him the right to make you suffer because of his bad past? Please. Drop the zero and get with a hero. Corny but true; you deserve better...don't you think?
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Dump him. He needs more care (and THERAPY) than you have time to give. Tell him that (probably in a nicer way...). Maybe it'll spur him to get some help before he becomes more than just verbally abusive, which appears to be the direction he's headed.
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He's recalcitrant except when he wants to yell at you? You can forgive if you want, but don't stick around in that toxic situation. Show him the door!
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you dont deserve any abuse like that. doesnt matter when happened to him when he was a kid, no matter how traumatizing. he just cant keep using that as an excuse, and you cant keep accepting it as an excuse. get rid of him.
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Kick him to the curb. You deserve better than to be told to shut up.
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if he's swearing at you at all, insulting you, ect, he doesn't deserve to be around you. A rough childhood really isn't much of a reason to be a jerk to you, the person he supposedly loves the most.
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If I were you, I'd dump him. Having had a rough childhood doesn't absolve a person from terrible abusive behaviors as an adult.
But if you really want to make the relationship work, and he does too, I would say get into counseling, individual and couples. Maybe there the two of you could figure out what's going on in your relationship, why he doesn't want to touch you, insults you, etc.
But nothing excuses abuse, nothing. He can apologize until the cows come home, but if nothing changes, or he isn't willing to get help I would get out before you get hurt any more.
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