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just friends?
my friends are telling me I shouldn't even try to be friends with my ex boyfriend because that never works, but I think it can sometimes. what do you think?
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man, i broke up with my boyfriend this summer and he's still my best guy friend. breaking up doesn't mean anything when it comes to caring... but in a different way than romance. my ex and i still talk normaly and nothing is different. the only thing is that we don't kiss or anything. we still hug and stuff, but that's because we understood eachother so we could have a friendship. do you understand your ex? i did.
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I think it sort of depends on how long ago you broke up beofer you can be friends, but by all means try and be friendly!
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lol this sounds just like my problem and maybe it can work but wiht me and my ex we just kept on getting in more and more fights becaus ei was jealus that he was going out with my friend and everything else but everything happens for a reason but anyways lol i think you should do what ever feels right cuz everybody's differnt i have had friends who are friends with their ex's and they haven't fought at all since and their closer then ever so just see what happens
=^..^= ~Pamie~
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I think your friends are full of bull crap. :)
Sure, there are situations where you get irreversibly hurt and the easiest thing to do is avoid your ex in order to avoid a total blowup or breakdown... but it's extremely easy to stay friends with your exes if you broke up on good terms, and even if you didn't. I'll give you a few examples...
I went out with a guy, not once, but TWICE, and we're still excellent friends, and we talk all the time, and stuff. He's like my best friend, only he's a guy, and I've kissed him before, heh. :)
I went out with a different guy a few years ago and the breakup was not a pleasant experience... we've each hurt each other a few times, but each time we got through it and we're still really good friends. Fun times.
It is quite possible to stay friends with an ex... just be careful. If you broke up for a good reason, don't get too attached to him again, because that's when it hurts. Be friends, but that's all.
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It depends on the guy(and the girl/gut/person of indiscriminate sex). If it was a really messy breakup then it's perhaps not a good idea but in most cases it can make for a good friendship- Neither of you are wondering what it would be like if you got together because you've been there before.
Just try not to get too close-it is almost certain to end badly.
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It can work; until one of you picks up another boyfriend/girlfriend. Then things will start to get weird. Trust me. Sometimes, it's better just to count the loss and move on.
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i think your friends are dumb. i'm still friends with one of my ex boyfriends. its possible. i was still friends with another ex of mine until we went to different schools. the other ex... well, he was a loser, so i didnt even much wanna be friends. but yeah, it can totally work out.
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Being friends can work, but it also depends on your age and how long you were together. If you are 13 and went out for a month then you should find it very easy to eventually become a comfortable friend with this guy.
However, if you were in a more long term relationship it could turn out to much more difficult for both of you. You should talk to the guy, see if he himself is up for being friends. More then likely he will give you an honest answer and if he says no, then give him space and time and eventually, things should be fine.
I think its all about time.
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The aspect your girl friends are coming from is that as soon you break any hope of a friendship goes in the garbage… this is not true at all!! Sometimes this does happen, but that is because things probably did not end well, or neither party care to try and make it work…. If you break up with somone there is no reason why you still can’t be good friends, you can be, you just need to 1.) Give each other time and space to heal from the relationship 2.) Talk about it, let him know you REALLY want to still be buds 3.) Make an effort, talk to him after you give healing time, do all you can to put the past behind you and move on as if the relationship never was there 4.) While you want to put the relationship behind you, you also wan to make it clear that the romance is over, no friends with benefits… If you can both understand these and work… then you stand a very good chance of staying friends even after the fire has died… I know lots of people that maintain friendships, strong ones, after they end a more serious relationship… good luck!
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I think you should give it some time before trying to patch things up. I believe it can work but you just have to be careful how you go about it. Just start chatting once in awhile, but don't go overboard.
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