me and this kid really like eachother. we cant go out though because this other kid likes me and we dont wanna hurt him (we are all friends) i need this kid to get over me. he has liked me for 2 years and i have tried givin him a chance but it never worked out. HELP
I know, that is kind of mean. The truth is, if he ignores that you are not into him, he isn't being very fair to you. If he doesn't consider your feelings, why should you consider his? It's not like you lead him on, right? Tell him bluntly that you are not into him and if he likes you so much he will be respectful of your feelings. [ timmain's advice column | Ask timmain A Question ]
Girlwithamansname answered Wednesday October 22 2003, 9:02 am: You have three options;
Kira_Valoka answered Tuesday October 21 2003, 5:31 pm: urg. love triangles. make you wanna puke, neh?
Talk to the other kid and say "Hey, you dont mind too much right? Cuz I know you like me, but I have given you a chance and it didnt work out, and I realy like(insert name here)"
simpler to say than to do but its better than nothing. [ Kira_Valoka's advice column | Ask Kira_Valoka A Question ]
ScaperJess answered Tuesday October 21 2003, 5:03 pm: In the real world people get hurt... it’s something that unfortunately can't be avoided. A guy friend of mine has liked me for quite some time; he's put me on a pedestal, and views me as his perfect match, however he is not my "prefect match." I've had to turn him down several times, always as nice as I can. He's my good friend and I don't like to hurt him, but I, just like you, know it won't work out. When I started dating another guy this hurt him, he accused him for me making decisions, on my own, he did not like, and he gave him dirty looks, and avoided him if he could, but this only lasted a few weeks. I wasn't going to stop my life in order to not hurt him. That was not fair to me or to him. He now, while he still is pretty much in love with me, is better. He is thankful that I am happy and that we are friends. You need to move on with your life, your friend will be hurt, of course, and probably be jealous, but after some time he'll adjust and more than less get over himself. Just make sure you make him some time, and include him, so he knows he's still one of your good friends. You can't stop him from liking you, and he will be hurt eventually, not taking action would just end up hurting all of you in the long run. You aren’t being a bad person by going out with a friend in your circle. Wounds heal over time. He’ll feel better and probably find someone else. Nobody really likes to hurt others, but sometimes it needs to be done. Good luck ;) [ ScaperJess's advice column | Ask ScaperJess A Question ]
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