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Crazy Driver!
I don't know what it is but as soon as i get in the car with my brother, I'm ready for him to crash. He has this thing where he takes his hands of the wheel to get something or he starts looking at his cd and the car will start to slowly head for the shoulder or whatever else is at the side of the road, including other cars... he also drives fast but even other fast drives I'm fine with (i don't eve mnd taking a turn fast, unless I'm with him), just him. something about him makes me brace myself no matter what, even if he's got both hands on the wheel looking out to an empty road going the speed limit, i feel like were going to crash, and only with him... could this be like postdramatic stress thing since last year at about this time we got into a pretty nasty accident due to ice on a bridge, Is there anything i can do to relax! anything!!! i really need it, i only try and grab the wheel from him all the time when he takes his hands off it... Its horrable! HELP!
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Well really, there's nothing you can do about that. But if at times he DOESN'T keep his hands on the wheel then just ask him to stop, or maybe (if you feel comfortable) sit up front with him and change the radio station for him so he could focus on the road...is he still a young driver? Because if he is then maybe that's whats making you nervous. It's normal because I go through that with my sister and brother sometimes too. I know how you feel and I know that with that person you don't always feel secure. But trust me, it's normal...becasue just because not everyone goes through that, still means that several other people go through that also.
If it's really making you uncomfortable, than maybe you should sit down and talk to him about it, or talk to your parents about it....or, if it's possible, have somebody else drive you.
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if possible - avoid driving with him I guess. He doesnt sound all that bad, a typical brother idiot driver, a little fast and a little reckless. My brothers reckless driver was also temporary - he got his own car. And now hes scared something might happen to it so he has cut out the rough driving. Anywho, enough with my anecdotes. You need help. I wouldn't advise telling your parents - talk to your brother first. Tell him you feel he or you or others could get hurt if he isnt keeping his hands on the wheel and driving too fast.
Heres a thought - criticize him and tell him you are grossly unimpressed with his driving. He will probably try his best because you've hurt his pride.
Or not. I dont know maybe you'll just have to cut out driving with him. Or complain about it a lot, that might also work.
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I'm always more frightened by my brothers' driving than anybody else's. Even when what they're doing isn't so terrible. And when they do do something dangerous, I'm convinced we're all going to die. The way I deal with it is by wearing a seatbelt and trying not to pay attention.
I also like those handlebars they have on the roof by the passenger door. whenever I want to take control of the car I grab on to that instead. Definitely don't reach for the steering wheel, because then if you veered and crashed it would be your fault and not his.
I was thinking about this some more today, and I think it would help if you offered to read his cd for him, or change the heat, or whatever he's reaching off the wheel to do. When I've got somebody else in the car with me it's so nice to be able to ask them to change the station, or pick up the map from the floor, because then I don't have to risk having an accident. Just an extra 2 cents.
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"... Its horrable!" so is your spelling
now, on to your actual question...
First off, tell him he needs to PAY ATTENTION TO THE ROAD!! What kind of MORON takes both hands off the wheel and doesnt look at the road when driving????
When stopped where he will be stopped for a while, FINE, but NOT WHILE DRIVING. I dont even have my license yet (I'm not 16 yet), but I do know that!! Tell him how dangerous it is--and if he doesnt buy it, tell him about the fine he could get for reckless driving. With some guys, only money matters :P <<exasperation with males>>
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