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There's this guy...
Ok, there's this guy that I really like. We are good friends and I've known him most of my life. I don't know if I should ask him out or leave our friendship how it is and maybe look for other guys...(ok, I'm not from the US so I have no idea how your grade system thing works but I'm 16...not really young...). Anyways.
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First of all-- do you really "like him" like him? Or do you just like him like you love your best friend? Or do you just love him like a brother? You need to determine a difference, if you think you like him in a different way than you actually do, things could get screwed up.
If you're good enough friends, talk to him about it.
If you're not comfortable enough to do that, give subtle flirting hints-- if he doesn't get the picture, move on. If he does, it's a win-win situation. w00t!
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Ask him how he feels about the situation, theoretically. If you say "So I've got this friend, and she really likes this dude..." etc, etc. If he likes you, he'll probably get the large hint you just gave him, and if he doesn't he'll just say something along the lines of "huh?"
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if theres a chance that your friend likes you too, go for it.
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The famous “should my friend and me become more”... It is a statistical fact that the most successful relationships start out as friendships… Being friends before being in a more inmate type of relationship gives both of you time to bond in a different way. It is a better way to get to know someone with all their little quirks with out the factor of infatuation; which often blinds two people in a relationship… I am a firm believer, and a follower to the ‘friends first’ idea… and I believe that there is nothing wrong or bad about dating friends. If the feeling is there, there is not much you can do about it! Why not peruse it? Weather or weather not it lasts, it could be one of your best dating experiences, having a background and friendship already you don’t really have to deal with all the relationship ice breakers that strangers do. And don't worry about losing him as a friend if you break up! Sometimes this happens, but that is because things probably did not end well or neither party care to try and make it work… If you break up a relationship with a close friend it is most likely, if you still want to be good friends, you can be. If things don’t work out then you stand a very good chance of staying friends… like I said thought, relationships have a better chance standing up to the test of time if they start out as friendships…
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If you like him, just go for it if you think it's right, unless he hasn't shown any signs of interest. Maybe flirt with him a little, check out his reaction, see if he acts weird about it, or if he flirts back, etc... If he returns your signals, go for it I say.
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