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Jonathan and me
I have been going out with this boy for 4 mnths and i really care about him. I feel like everything thats going wrong in school or home i take it out on him and he will think i'm acting to bitchy and i'm scared of him breaking up with me. what should i do?
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Well, if you two really care about each other then Jonathan shouldn't be mad about you talking your problems out on him. But, on the other hand, I think you should try to take your problems out on something else. ((not a person)) Try joining a sport team or take up a hobby ((musical instrument, painting, singing)) It will take your mind of all the stress. I, myself would sometimes take my stress out on other people, but once i got to high school and started playing sport after sport all year round, i take my stress out on the court/field. Trust me, it works!
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hm... if he cant take the heat, toss him into the oven and burn him. if he can't take your bitchin, imagine what it would be like if you got married. so if he can understand, then no worries. thinks you're bitchy and self centered? hm... let's think about this choice of boy.
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Umm... stop maybe?
Depending on his personality, he's either shrugged it off as a personality quirk, or he's startng to get really pissed off at this point.
A lot of it will depend on how, ah... happy he is in the relationship. Given that you're (presumably) both at school (Not university I'm assuming) this will depend on a lot of stuff, so basically, err, stop unloading onto him.
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I have this with one of my best guy friends. Whenever life in general pisses me off, I generally end up ranting at him about it. Usually this is because he says something stupid to make me angry, though the past couple times it's been because he asked me how I was doing and I told him exactly how I felt about the world as we know it. I used to feel bad about yelling at him all the time, but we've come to the understanding that it's nothing personal against him on my part, I'm just a fairly emotional person who needs to let that sort of stuff vent. If you yell at him one day, just be sure to apologize the next. Eventually he'll realize the same thing my friend did. At least we can all hope so.
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it can be hard sometimes when you are really angry or frustrated and do or say before you think, but try not to take it out on other people. pillows are good for punching (and cheaper than punching bags lol) if you need to get violent. if you need to yell, turn up the radio really loud and yell at that (hey, it works lol).
if you're boyriend really cares about you, he'll realise when you're not happy, and he'll try to help you. and i know this probably isn't very comforting, but if he does break up with you, why would you want to be with him? hope i've helped... good luck!
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Don't take it out on him in the form of abuse or verbal violence, but instead look to him as someone who will listen to your problems and offer solace. Tell him you're sorry for being a biznatch, but there's a lot of tough shiznat going on right now and you need to talk about it. Hopefully he'll understand and he won't break up with you. :)
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Don't take it out on him. Take it out on something else. Whether it's from painting a picture, or punching something, as long as you take it out on something else, it should be fine.
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Buy a punching bag and beat it up REAL good when youre upset. wrap it in tissue paper to shred when youre REALLY mad/sad/frustrated.
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Not take it out on him? Well seriously find a new vent, go home kill a pillow or buy like a fish and scream at that! that way you can get all your frustrations out so when your with him you can be calmer and less likely to EXPLODE at him... Also make sure you let him know you care about him. Tell him you love him, so he knows your not mad at him, and let him know of all the stress in your life right now, that will help him understand your behavior.
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